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GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES… Confidence

What does confidence mean to you?

What can you do to communicate with confidence?

Why do you want to communicate with confidence? What value will you gain if you communicated with confidence with a specific person or persons?

What does communicate with confidence look like to you?

Have you ever had this image in your mind?

You are in a room with the person you want to speak with, and you speak with that person with confidence.

The both of you are engaged in the conversation and you understand each other.

For once, you felt that someone heard what you said and understood exactly what you meant. The conversation felt so effortless, and you ended up feeling you had an effective conversation with that person.

Only what you imagined was not the reality.

The reality is, you stumble over words leaving you feeling small, and what you really want to do is hide and blend in with the background.

When you do take the courage to speak, you feel like no one listens or hears what you are saying, and this leaves you feeling like no one understands you or your message.

There are many parts to communication and the first one we are going to look at is communicating with confidence.

Here are three tips to communicating with confidence:

Tip #1 Smile.

A smile can brighten a person’s day, a room, as well as brighten up your mood which most likely will help to boost your confidence.

Tip #2 Stand up straight.

I am sure you have heard someone during your lifetime tell you to stand up straight. Standing up straight is not only good for your posture, but it will make you feel tall and confident.

I don’t know about you, but when I stand up straight at 5 feet 2 inches tall, I feel really confident as if I am standing at the same height as the person I am talking to even if that person is standing at 6 feet 2 inches tall.

Tip #3 Speak clearly.

There are many people who are fast talkers and if you are one of them, that’s fine as long as you speak clearly. There are some fast talkers out there where all the words and sounds end up sounding mushed together and it sounds like they are making up their own words that I didn’t even know existed.

There might be a few reasons you are speaking fast. One is either you want to get the message out before you forget the important points you to wanted to share, or maybe you just want to get out of the conversation quickly because you’re not comfortable in the situation. Or you speak fast to sound as if you are mumbling because you might not be comfortable or confident with the message you are sharing with the other person, so you are casually glossing it over. Perhaps you have your own reasons to speak fast that I didn’t mention.

Remember that there are people that are good at processing information at a fast rate while others require more time. Depending upon the person’s ability to process the information you are providing they may or may not catch up which may cause some confusion and misunderstanding at times.

You don’t have to speak slow like a sloth either.

You want to speak at a pace that is comfortable for you and one that can also be easy for other people to understand. When you speak at that comfortable pace you exude confidence.

The next time you want to speak with Confidence just use the Three S-tips (this is the name I use to help me to remember) to Communicate with Confidence:

Tip #1 Smile

Tip #2 Stand up Straight

Tip #3 Speak Clearly

If you are driven to communicate with confidence, have your messages, be heard and understood, and repair any communication breakdown in your personal communication relationship, then you should take a look at my ebook 5 Strategies For Effective Companion Communication! Grab your free copy by signing up below:

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Warm regards,

Grace CW Liu
Communication Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu believes there is a solution to every problem including communication and conversation problems. Everyone can find the solution they seek by using the guidance of grace that is in you, with the grace of spiritual support, and Grace –me– as your Communication Navigator and support system.

My passion is to help sensitive, conflict-phobic, and introverted women have effective communication so they feel valued and heard in any conversation.

Through studying and observations, I’ve realized why communication breakdown occurs and the solutions to solving those problems. I’ve presented these solutions so that communicative partners can achieve effective communication!

GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES… Opinions

Are you afraid of conflicts so you avoid it as much as possible?
What are some opinions that you have that other people may agree or disagree with?
What opinions are you willing or unwilling to share with others?
Why are you willing to share your opinions or not?

Everyone has an opinion, and I am sure you have an opinion about something. I know I do.

Whether or not you are comfortable sharing your opinion with other people may be in question based on how comfortable you are with sharing your opinion with others.

How comfortable are you when someone agrees or disagrees with your opinions? Or a better question might be how comfortable does a person make you feel when you agree or disagree with them?

The person’s response or reaction when you share your opinion may either make you feel comfortable in sharing your opinion further or make you feel that perhaps it’s better to keep your opinion to yourself to avoid any conflict, especially when you or the other person has a disagreeing point of view.

Here are five tips or questions to ask yourself before you consider sharing your opinions:

Tip #1 TRUE, is it true?

Are there facts that can back up your opinion? Are there facts that can back up the other person’s opinion when there are differing opinions?

Tip #2 HELPFUL, is it helpful?

Is the information being shared helpful to each person? How is it helpful? Does it bring more knowledge or value to each of the people involved?

Tip #3 INSPIRING, is it inspiring?

Does the discussion of the opinions inspire the person to take action? What action might that be? Does it inspire growth, learning, or wisdom?

Tip #4 NECESSARY, is it necessary?

Is it necessary to persuade the other person to think the way that you do? Is it necessary for you think the way that person wants you to? Is it necessary to continue the conflict when both parties are unable to agree?

Tip #5 Kind, is it kind?

Are the words you say and use impeccable? It is okay to disagree and have arguments; however, are the words being used during the argument kind? You can state the way you feel and think without name calling and being vicious.

The next time you are in a communication situation, and you are not sure whether or not to share your opinion, just remember THINK:

Is it True ?

Is it Helpful ?

Is it Inspiring ?

Is it Necessary ?

Is it Kind ?

If you are driven to communicate with confidence, have your messages, be heard and understood, and repair any communication breakdown in your personal communication relationship, then you should take a look at my ebook 5 Strategies For Effective Companion Communication! Grab your free copy by signing up below:

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Warm regards,

Grace CW Liu
Communication Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu believes there is a solution to every problem including communication and conversation problems. Everyone can find the solution they seek by using the guidance of grace that is in you, with the grace of spiritual support, and Grace –me– as your Communication Navigator and support system.

My passion is to help sensitive, conflict-phobic, and introverted women have effective communication so they feel valued and heard in any conversation.

Through studying and observations, I’ve realized why communication breakdown occurs and the solutions to solving those problems. I’ve presented these solutions so that communicative partners can achieve effective communication!

GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES… Messages (Hidden)

What hidden messages have you discovered or understood behind words that were spoken to you? 

What are some messages or meanings you have hidden behind your spoken words?
Why is it easy or difficult for others to understand those hidden message behind your words?
Why is it easy or difficult for you to hear and understand other people’s hidden message behind their spoken words?

Depending upon your background and the culture you grew up in, you may or may not understand about the hidden messages spoken behind words.

Here is an example: If you’ve ever watched the TV show ‘Fresh Off The Boat’ there was an episode that really jumped out at me.

In the episode where Jessica and her sister talked on the phone and Jessica’s sister was saying how excited she was to visit her family for Thanksgiving, there was a subtext of the meaning behind each of the words being spoken.

Even though we may understand the literal words, there was a hidden message, a subtext of the meaning behind those spoken words between the sisters.

I can tell you… this is very common in Asian culture. I know because I lived and continue to live with it throughout my life.

I have always needed to be careful about what I said because the meaning behind the words is just as equally important, and I dared not to offend anyone or try to get myself or anyone in trouble.

Through years of training with my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and all the other Asian adults and children I have encountered, I have become highly skilled in understanding the hidden messages behind their spoken words.

My husband, on the other hand, did not and continues to try to learn this skill of understanding the hidden message. You see my husband is Scottish and his family members are very direct.

What they say is exactly what they mean, but I have discovered that sometimes even with his family there would be a bit of meaning behind their conversations. However, I would say at least 90-95% of the time there were no hidden messages behind their spoken words.

In my family though, 95-100% of the time there are definitely hidden messages behind the spoken words.

If you are thinking it is difficult and complicated to speak with my family, you are correct!

Even the questions that my family ask have hidden meanings behind them. A simple ‘how are you’ doesn’t just mean ‘how are you?’ It can mean how is your job, are you still living in the same apartment, when are you going to…?

I had to teach my husband about understanding the hidden messages, hidden questions, subtext, reading between the lines, and so on.

Here are three tips that I shared with my husband that may help you to understand the hidden messages behind the spoken words, the subtext, and read between the lines, so to speak:

Tip #1 Rationale for the question asked or statement made

What information is the person trying to obtain or want you to know? Is it for their benefit or yours?

Tip #2 Eye contact/Body language

How are they looking at you when they ask you the question or telling you the information? Are they looking at you or giving you a side view?

Are they leaning towards you or away? Are they stiff or relaxed? This can show you how interested they are and that they want you to know what they are really asking you. Or what they want you to know behind their hidden messages.

Tip #3 Tone of voice

If you can’t see them and they can’t see you, then you can rely on the tone of voice. Is the voice a bit stiff, formal, relaxed, a fake smile behind the words, warmth, etc? This will tell you about the hidden messages behind the spoken words.

So the next time you are in a communication situation where you need to understand hidden messages or respond to hidden message, just remember RET and KISS.

R– Rational for question or statement

E– Eye contact

T– Tone of voice

Use KISS (Keep It Short and Simple) when responding to the hidden message!

If you are driven to communicate with confidence, have your messages, be heard and understood, and repair any communication breakdown in your personal communication relationship, then you should take a look at my ebook 5 Strategies For Effective Companion Communication! Grab your free copy by signing up below:

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Warm regards,

Grace CW Liu
Communication Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu believes there is a solution to every problem including communication and conversation problems. Everyone can find the solution they seek by using the guidance of grace that is in you, with the grace of spiritual support, and Grace –me– as your Communication Navigator and support system.

My passion is to help sensitive, conflict-phobic, and introverted women have effective communication so they feel valued and heard in any conversation.

Through studying and observations, I’ve realized why communication breakdown occurs and the solutions to solving those problems. I’ve presented these solutions so that communicative partners can achieve effective communication!

GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES… MONITOR Feelings

How comfortable are you with feelings and your ability to monitor feelings in your communication?

What are some ways you or the person you are communicating with monitor feelings in a conversation?

What makes it easy or difficult for you and the person you communicate with to monitoring feelings during a conversation?

Why do you monitor feelings (or not) in your conversations with others?

You might find, as you engage in conversation, that the mood either starts to change or did completely change. And you might be aware that the mood started to change subtly or dramatically during the conversation.

You might be aware of why the mood changed and sometimes you’re not.

What happened?!

First, you and said person were having a nice conversation. Everything was going well, and then one of you said something. Either you did or said something, or the other person did or said something that suddenly seemed to change the mood of the conversation.

Now, at this point you might be aware of it, and the other person might or might not be depending upon how well you or the other person are good at monitoring these feelings in the conversation.

Usually if one of you is good at this and realized the exact point at which the mood changed and the reason for it, then you might be able to repair the breakdown. You or the other person might apologize for what was said or provide further explanation for better understanding.

If either of you are not good at monitoring feelings, then one of you will carry on as if nothing has happened while the other one gets more annoyed, angry, sad or embarrassed depending upon the conversational topic or situation.

Sometimes conversations that start out so well suddenly lead to an explosion or someone walking out.

What can you do to monitor feelings so that you can have a nice productive conversation and not end up with an explosive scenario?

Here are four tips that you can use that may help you to monitor feelings in your communication:

Tip #1 M – Movement (body movement/posture)

What is the body movement or posture of the person you’re talking with? Is it relaxed, opened, tensed, limited body movement, or is a body part crossed when it was initially uncrossed?

What are the person’s mannerisms? Are they the same or have they changed?

Tip #2 O – Oh, the look (eye contact/gaze)

What is the person’s eye contact like? Are their eyes relaxed, glaring at you or looking away?

Tip #3 O – Oh, the face (facial expression)

What is the person’s face like? Is it relaxed, tensed, eyebrows furrowing, tense mouth with or without the smile?

Tip #4 D – Declaration (tone of voice)

What is the declaration or the tone of voice the person is using? Does the tone sound different from being light and happy to tense, angry, annoyed, and so on?

The next time you are in a communication situation and want to be able to monitor feelings to have nice productive conversation, just remember MOOD (this acronym helped me and I think it will help you as well).

Movement

Oh, the look

Oh, the face

Declaration

If you are driven to communicate with confidence, have your messages, be heard and understood, and repair any communication breakdown in your personal communication relationship, then you should take a look at my ebook 5 Strategies For Effective Companion Communication! Grab your free copy by signing up below:

Get The eBook

Warm regards,

Grace CW Liu
Communication Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu believes there is a solution to every problem including communication and conversation problems. Everyone can find the solution they seek by using the guidance of grace that is in you, with the grace of spiritual support, and Grace –me– as your Communication Navigator and support system.

My passion is to help sensitive, conflict-phobic, and introverted women have effective communication so they feel valued and heard in any conversation.

Through studying and observations, I’ve realized why communication breakdown occurs and the solutions to solving those problems. I’ve presented these solutions so that communicative partners can achieve effective communication!

GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES… Uncover Misunderstandings

Why do misunderstandings occur?

What are some ways that misunderstanding occurs in your conversations?

In what ways are you able to repair misunderstandings and gain a better understanding in your conversations?

Sometimes during your communication with other people, you are speaking, and a misunderstanding may occur.

You might have realized a misunderstanding has occurred either by the response given or someone outright stating the fact saying something like “You misunderstood what I said.”

What can you do make sure there is mutual understanding and then uncover any potential misunderstandings in your conversations?

Here are three tips that may help you to uncover misunderstandings in your communication:

Tip #1 Perception

How each person perceives the situation or how their story is different.

Tip #2 Accept and Learn from failure

Know that each person has had some experience with communication failure or misunderstandings and the best way to deal with it is to learn from it.

Tip #3 Listen

Listen to understand rather than to reply or respond quickly to what the other person has just stated.

The next time you are in a communication situation and want to be able uncover misunderstandings, just remember PALL (pronounced pal). PALL will help you to repair misunderstandings and to create more conversations filled with better understanding.

Perception

Accept & Learn

Listen

If you are driven to communicate with confidence, have your messages, be heard and understood, and repair any communication breakdown in your personal communication relationship, then you should take a look at my ebook 5 Strategies For Effective Companion Communication! Grab your free copy by signing up below:

Get The eBook

Warm regards,

Grace CW Liu
Communication Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu believes there is a solution to every problem including communication and conversation problems. Everyone can find the solution they seek by using the guidance of grace that is in you, with the grace of spiritual support, and Grace –me– as your Communication Navigator and support system.

My passion is to help sensitive, conflict-phobic, and introverted women have effective communication so they feel valued and heard in any conversation.

Through studying and observations, I’ve realized why communication breakdown occurs and the solutions to solving those problems. I’ve presented these solutions so that communicative partners can achieve effective communication!

February HOOP With Grace

Do you sometimes feel a disconnect with your communication partners creating disharmonious relationships?

When you talk to another person does it sometimes feel like you are speaking another language?

Even though you both are speaking the same literal language, does it feel like you are speaking one language and your listener is speaking in another completely different one?

You think it must be either you or the other person because somehow that person just doesn’t seem to understand what you are talking about and you don’t seem to understand what they’re saying.

Neither of you seem to understand each other and you’re both frustrated by this.

You ponder, “Do communication and relationship really have to take so much effort?”

Well, believe it or not,
I learned something about relationship and communication from my beautiful hula hoop.
With it, I have learned how to form a good relationship and communication.

You’re probably thinking,

“Okay, she must be nuts! How can you possibly learn anything about communication from a hula hoop when a hoop is a thing and not a person?”

So, let me explain.

Whenever a hooper (I define ‘hooper’ as a person who knows how to hula hoop and can do at least a few hooping tricks), no matter how much or how little of an experience they have,
always have new tricks to try and learn.
New tricks can add more fun and flair to the dance routine.

There is a learning curve for every hooper who learns a new trick and it can take time for the hooper to learn and master the trick before it looks effortless.

Whenever I learn a new trick, I always feel a disconnect, a loss of connection and relationship with my hoop because I can’t figure out what I am supposed to do with it.

I have to think about where to place my hands on the hoop, how tight or loose to grasp it, or how I should move my hand and how the hoop should move around my hand or body space, and most important avoid the hoop hitting me on the head!

 

This is me trying to figure my hoop out and I just can’t figure it out. I’m thinking,
‘Come on work with me here! You and me we’re supposed to be ‘partners’ and work harmoniously together here.’

What I discovered is this…

If my head, body, and spirit space are not in alignment then there is going to be a disconnect.

What do I mean by that?

You see, when I am thinking about something else and I am not paying full attention to how my body is moving in relation to the hoop or where the hoop is in relation to my body movements,
then the hoop is going to either fly away or hit me on the head.

If my spirit is down, my body will either tend to move slower or in lower body posture instead of being uplifted and in high energy when my spirit is high and that can also affect the movement of my hoop. The hoop needs momentum and if I am not moving my body fast enough because my spirit is in low energy, then the hoop is either going to drop or hit me on the head.

When my mind pays full attention to the hoop, what the movement looks like, feels like and my body follows along with my spirit, then the hoop starts to move the way it is supposed to and I begin to learn how to master the trick and I stop getting hit on the head.

This is me loving my hoop! We’re back to being ‘friends’ because I finally learned and mastered the trick so my hoop no longer hits me on the head. Yipppeeee!

Now, you’re probably thinking,
“So, what is the point to this story? I still don’t see the connection of hooping to having good relationship or communication.”

Let’s go back to what I said earlier, about when two people are talking and neither of them understands each other and each feels like they are speaking a different language from the other person…

Why is that?

If you think about it… it’s a similar situation when a hooper is learning a new trick.

When there’s a disconnect to the relationship or to communication, it’s most likely that either one or both people are not fully listening or paying attention to each other.

As one person is talking the other person might be thinking about something else, or wondering how long they have to pretend to be listening, or due to a hard day’s work the energy level is low so their listening ability isn’t fully there. The body might be present, but the mind or spirit is not and that can create a disconnect and communication problems.

How well do you know how that person learns and communicates? Does that person respond better with auditory (hearing), visual (seeing), kinesthetic (touching), or a combination of them?

You can’t communicate by how or what you do. You have to communicate as that person would in order to create more effective communication, therefore creating a more connected relationship.

In order for me to be more effective in mastering my hooping tricks I have also learned which hoops to use.
In other words, I really learned how to use my hoops by knowing and understanding the different hoop sizes and thicknesses.

I have to know how the different hoop sizes and thicknesses can affect my hooping so I can determine which one will be better for me to practice in mastering a particular trick.
 So not only do I have to pay attention with my mind, body, and spirit, but I also have to pay attention to the hoop I am using and that will either make it easier or harder for me to master a hoop trick.

The moral of this story is…

Be present with full attention in mind, body and spirit when speaking and listening with another person to create meaningful connection which leads to better communication and relationship.

To create more effective communication learn how others like to communicate. Communicate in their style (not from your own) because the person only understands their own style.

In case you are wondering, yes, I still get hit on the head with my hoop whenever I learn new tricks. I have learned that the way my hoop communicates with me is to remind me to stay in the present moment and to stay focused to the hoop with my mind, body and spirit. I don’t get hit on the head as often as I did in the beginning, but every now and then when I am not in full focus,
I get not so gentle reminders from my hoop.

(And yes, I own several hoops of different sizes, thickness, and colors.)

What I learned from hooping can be applied to people because whenever you are creating communication (whether it be with people or in this case with a hoop,)
you have to learn and know how to communicate with the person or object  you are speaking to. Once you do it, it can become effortless which can lead to a more harmonious relationship with people or even hoops.

Remember: Communication and relationships do take work, but once you learn and know how to communicate it can become effortless and can create more harmonious relationships.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

March HOOP With Grace

Do you feel like your brain is working on overtime and that you will never have the peace of mind that you crave?

Does your brain keep you busy thinking about different things all the time?

Even when you want to wind down and go to sleep, your brain is still active with things you have to do. You are constantly thinking and worrying about things that keep you up at night.

You would love to have a good night’s sleep, but you can’t because of your overactive brain.
You’ve probably heard of meditation to help quiet the brain and de-stress. You might have even tried it yourself, but soon gave up on it because your brain just won’t shut up.

As soon as you try to quiet your brain, more thoughts keep coming up that you don’t think you can ever empty your brain to nothingness and that just stresses you out even more.
One of my goals I wanted to achieve was to be one with my hoop. I wanted to enjoy the peace in my hoop as many of my hooping friends had done.

But instead, this happened…

Yup, that’s me screaming so that it would be louder than my thoughts in my busy brain.

That 30 second scream helped to quiet my brain down for about 30 seconds, but it was not a good remedy.
Not only did I hurt my throat, but I frightened my husband  so bad that his hair fell out (that is why he’s bald), and gave myself a headache.

As you can see, this is not a flattering picture, but then again, I have never seen any flattering pictures of chaos or misery.
If you look closer at the picture you will see the word ‘grace’ on my shirt.
I can tell you that I did not feel the ‘grace’ in me, with me, or around me.

And yet…

Even though it may be difficult to achieve, the majority of us want and look for ways to discover and achieve peace of mind.

What I learned was…
One of the ways to achieve peace of mind is not to try so hard.

You’re probably thinking,

“What? If you want to achieve or succeed at something you must work hard to get it. Things don’t just happen; you have to work for it.”


You know the saying, ‘No pain, no gain’.

Sometimes the harder you try to find something or achieve something the more you might not find or achieve it. Instead of working with the current, you are going against the current which can be exhausting.

That is exactly what it feels like, exhausting. Not only do you feel the pain, but you also feel so exhausted that you probably just end up giving up.
Have you paddled a boat against the stream instead of with the stream?
Let me tell you, if you tried to paddle a boat against the current of the stream you will know how exhausting that can be. It is much easier to paddle the boat going with current of the stream rather than against it.

The same is true for your brain. The more you work at quieting it down, the more the thoughts will just keep on popping up like popcorn.
One of the ways to work around this is to simply let your thoughts flow in. As each thought flows in, imagine those thoughts are written on a leaf and each of those leaves carry your thoughts away into the wind. Pretty soon all of your thoughts will be blown away by the wind that were written on the leaves.

Another way is to focus your brain on something else such as your breathing. You can focus your brain on your breaths by practicing deep diaphragmatic breathing. Breathing slowly in through the nose and slowly out through the mouth. Just think smell the rose, blow out the candle.
When your brain is focused on the breathing, it can’t think about anything else.

When I learned to go with the flow rather than against it, I found my peace of mind. Now, I can peacefully meditate in my hoop and be one with it.

“Hhhaaa, what a good feeling that is.”

If you look closely at the picture you will see ‘GRACE’ on this shirt.
This time I can feel ‘GRACE’ in me, with me and around me.

The moral of this story is…

Peace of mind can be achieved when you work and go with the current (flow) rather than against the current (flow). When you work against the current it can be exhausting. Go with the flow and let it go. Also directing your attention to something else such as your breathing can also help to achieve a peace of mind.

I enjoy spending time in my hoop now, either before or after I hoop dance for moments of meditation for reflection and/or inspiration.

Remember:

Our brain needs time to rest and shut down just like our computers. If we don’t give our brain time to rest and shut down it will not work well just like when our computers run slow when they aren’t given time to rest and shut down.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

How One Obtains Peace with Grace

Happy 2021!

Here’s to supporting our personal growth throughout 2021!

 

Do you have a hobby or an activity that you dream of achieving, but have not achieved it yet?

I get how disappointing and frustrating it can be.

You see, in the back of my mind, I have always wanted to learn how to hula hoop. It looked fun and something that an uncoordinated and unathletic person like me can do.

As a kid, I tried to hula hoop, but my hoop kept falling down my waist.

I never gave it another thought throughout my life, but every now and then when I saw other people hooping, I looked at them with envy.

One day as I was window shopping, There was a sign, “Happy Hoopers”.

I went inside to inquire!
What was this all about?
A delightful woman greeted me.

There was a class for people, like me, who wanted to learn how to hula hoop and do hoop tricks with the added benefit of fitness.

Without hesitation I said, ‘sign me up.’

I signed up, bought my hoop (starter hula hoop for beginners is 40 inches in diameter), went to class, practiced at home, and this happened…

I kept dropping the hoop. It would stay on my waist for 5-10 seconds before it would fall to the floor. I picked up the hoop each time and my back was getting sore from picking up the hoop. Eventually, I got lazy and picked it up with my foot each time my hoop fell to the floor.
I kept practicing and there were days I was frustrated, not going to lie.

Until one day, this happened…

I kept dropping the hoop. It would stay on my waist for 5-10 seconds before it would fall to the floor. I picked up the hoop each time and my back was getting sore from picking up the hoop. Eventually, I got lazy and picked it up with my foot each time my hoop fell to the floor.
I kept practicing and there were days I was frustrated, not going to lie.

Until one day, this happened…

I am hooping! Yippeee!! The hoop stayed on my waist! I was so happy, my instructor was happy for me, and I was in my happy space until she said,

Now hoop in the opposite direction.

You see when it comes to hooping it is about using both parts of the brain. You have to use the right and left side of the brain for balance. I was like,

What?! I just learned how to hoop and now I must hoop the other way? Are you kidding me?!

It took me forever to be able to hula hoop. Three weeks felt like an eternity, especially when you’re constantly picking up the hoop off the floor. I listened and followed her directions, and it didn’t take long for me to hoop in the opposite direction because my body knew what it had to do from muscle memory.

You’re probably thinking so what is the point to this story or what is the lesson?

The moral of this story is…

Keep going, keep working on what you want to achieve because one day you will get there…

You will succeed!

Once you learn how to do something, you will never forget it…it’s like riding a bike.
Before you can ride a bike, you are going to fall just like my hula hoop kept falling to the ground.

Remember: Keep practicing whatever it is you want to learn to do because one day you will succeed. Once you learn and know what to do you will never forget or lose that ability or skills because it is built in like muscle memory.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
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ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

November Soulful Quote Shared From Grace

Last month I wrote about fear…fear of failure and mistakes.

The fear of failure and mistakes can leave us feeling stressed and worried.

When we worry… we might feel the weight of the world on our shoulders, have out of control thoughts which can lead to reckless behavior because we feel responsibility to our beliefs and we end up playing the “victim”.

We can all shift our mindset from worry to peace of mind.

When we gain peace…we learn about setting priorities and we learn to prioritize ourselves first, we start being easy on ourselves by having more kind and compassionate thoughts of ourselves and others, we gain awareness of our actions by knowing we have choices and the freedom to choose that serves our highest good which leads us to empower ourselves and others.

This month I chose a quote to remind us to shift our mindset from worry to peace of mind into our lives.

“Worry less. Smile more. Listen carefully. Take responsibility. Accept what you can’t change. Embrace the lesson. Love your life.” ”

Anonymous

QUESTIONS TO NAVIGATE YOUR MIND ON…

    • What weight do you feel on your shoulders and where did that weight come from? (i.e. not being able to say “no” to others, being responsible for everybody, being the go-to person, etc.)

     

    • What out of control thoughts do you have? What worst-case scenarios do you have playing in your mind?

     

    • What reckless behaviors do you have or use to distract you from your worry and stress? (i.e. binge watching, addiction to food/alcohol, social media, etc.)

     

    • What beliefs do you have that no longer support you? (i.e. beliefs that money is root of all evil, rich people are all pretentious and selfish, “I am unworthy”, “no one wants to listen to what I have to say since I am not some of importance”, etc.)

     

    • What “victim” stories do you keep telling yourself?

      A personal example of mine is this:
      I was mentally and physically abused by my mother all through my childhood. My mother told me on the day of my high school graduation that she regretted that she didn’t abort me and that she should have listened to my paternal grandmother to have an abortion because she was ashamed of me since I didn’t graduate with honors as my cousin had done the previous year.

     

    This was my “victim” story that I kept telling myself, but then I learned to shift my “victim” story to “hero” story to empower myself and others. My hero story is that I graduated with a master’s degree even though I wasn’t an honors student and I learned that I am tough, and I am a survivor. I learned to love myself…all the good, bad and ugly because all of these things make me who I am. I am happy and proud of myself of who I have become. I appreciate all the lessons and sacred friends who have helped me to learn and to become a better person each day.

If you are driven to start taking better care of yourself from within so you can take better care of your family and friends, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: www.GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

December Soulful Quote Shared From Grace

My October and November blogs focused on fear and worry.

Gratitude is one of the best ways to conquer fear and worry.

December is not only the last month of the year (and in this case year the 2020), it is also the month where many people are getting ready to celebrate their holidays.

One of the ways to end the month and year is to reflect and end with gratitude so we can move forward to the new year with new beginnings and a fresh start.

Although 2020 has not been a great year due to COVID-19, protests, wild fires and other natural disasters around the world; certainly we can all find something to be grateful for and focus on that so we can finish 2020 with at least one positive thought.

The quote I chose for the month of December is a reminder that we all have had some share of misfortunes but let us reflect and focus on our blessings and gratitude.

"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some."

Charles Dickens

QUESTIONS TO NAVIGATE YOUR MIND ON…

  • What are you grateful for this year? (i.e. I am grateful that I am healthy and that my family and friends stayed healthy and safe during COVID-19, etc.)
  • What lessons did you learn this month or year? (i.e. I learned that I am resourceful, I learned to be more consistent with completing my tasks, etc.)
  • Who are you grateful to and what would you like to say to that person? (i.e. I am grateful to my husband, his sense of humor helps me to stay light-hearted and not to take things so seriously, etc.)

If you are driven to start taking better care of yourself from within so you can take better care of your family and friends, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: www.GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

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