What fears do you have? What fears would you like to drop and release? What fears are sticking around and refusing to go? What can you do to get rid of or transform your fears?
In the United States, and some other countries we celebrate Halloween in October. Halloween is known for the witches, vampires, ghosts, spooky things, and horror.
Although some of us don’t like to be scared or experience fear, we tend to seek it it out in October.
You might not like creepy horror movies, but you might just end up watching one or two horror movies because it’s Halloween!
To get ready for the spirit of Halloween, the October blog story is all about FEAR…
You might be thinking, what does hooping or hula hoop have to do with fear?
Read on to find out if you dare…
How many you have the Fear Of Perfectionism?
I do my best to take care of my hula hoop; however, depending upon where I hoop, this can happen…
My beautiful hoop has blemishes. It is no longer ‘perfect’.
In what areas in your life do you feel you are not ‘perfect’ or what you are doing is not ‘perfect’?
Here’s the thing, perfection isn’t your enemy, and you don’t have to fear that you aren’t perfect.
There isn’t anything wrong with being perfect so long as you pay attention to the right details as a perfectionist that moves you forward, and not at the details that makes you stand still.
By the way, Yes, I think my hoop is beautiful and perfect with the blemishes, and it’s my go to hoop dance partner.
How many of you have the Fear Of Failure?
Who doesn’t? Even the most successful people have this fear.
One of the advices that has been shared in combating the fear of failure is through gratitude.
Have an attitude of gratitude. When you focus and think of all the things you are grateful for and what you have accomplished, you’ll forget about the things that didn’t work out.
Have you noticed that sometimes when things didn’t work out that it benefitted you in the end?
How many of you have the Fear Of Change?
How many of you stay at the job you hate because of fear of change? You would rather stay and suffer because you know the status quo.
Change is inevitable.
What I found helpful when going through changes is thinking about the lifecycle stages of the butterfly.
When I am going through changes in my life, I identify what stage I am currently at during my changes.
When you think about it…when you and I go through changes we are going through the stages and processes that the butterfly goes through. The caterpillar stage, chrysalis stage, and butterfly stage.
By thinking of my changes in terms of butterfly stages, it doesn’t seem as scary. Heck, who doesn’t like butterflies?
Here is my version of being a butterfly!
My hoops aren’t perfect, I am not a perfect hooper, I have failed many times with my hooping tricks, and yet I have bloomed to be a butterfly through the different changes and stages of my hooping experience.
The moral of this story is…
Focus on details that will move you forward, have an attitude of gratitude towards your accomplishments and things you have in your life at the present moment, and think of yourself as becoming a butterfly when going through changes in your life.
The fact is we all have fears. I only touched on three fears, but there are many fears out there. If I listed them all here, well, it would end up being a book, and then no one would get any sleep because of fear.
Some fears are easy to drop and release, and some fears tend to stick around for a while, and some others may make themselves so comfortable that they can’t take the hint that it’s time to leave until we kick them out!
Would you love to transform your fears and kick them out? Who wouldn’t?
Transform your fears by surrendering your fears.
According to Judith Orloff, MD, “Surrender is the divine art of letting go—the ability to flow instead of clenching, obsessing, and over-controlling.”
The definition of Surrender by Dr. Mitchell Friedman, “Surrender means you change direction. You give up AND you get going in a different way. Surrender demands constant action in support of the change. To surrender is necessary to improve and realize one’s potential. That is a very important point.”
Remember the movie, “Ghostbusters”? The main characters in the movie work on capturing and getting rid of the ghosts that plague the city. Well, there are plenty of people out there teaching us how to bust our fears, and when we put into practice busting our fears, I like to think of ourselves as “Fearbusters”!
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