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April HOOP With Grace

Do you think you are good at multi-tasking? Do you feel like you are one of those people who can master multi-tasking, and say “you don’t know what you’re talking about” to those who challenge you on your ability to multi-task?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, then I beg to differ.

You can certainly switch from one task to another and you may be able to do two tasks at the same time (depending on what the tasks are), but you cannot multi-task.

You can’t focus your attention on multiple tasks. You can only focus on one task at a time.

You might say “Well I can do two things at once!”

You can point to something like “I listen to music while I drive.” That might be true, but if a situation jumps out in front of you such as a child chasing a ball into the street running right in front of your car, how fast do you think you would react if you weren’t distracted by music?

In this scenario you would either have a delayed reaction or wouldn’t remember the song you were listening to. It depends on what you were paying attention to. If you paid attention to the song, it would delay your reaction. If you paid attention to your driving, then likely you wouldn’t remember the song you were listening to.

When you pay attention to too many things at once you can end up feeling like this…

Rather than completing multiple things, you end up completing nothing because none of the tasks end up fully completed, and you also end up feeling overwhelmed.

You likely have many projects started, but none of them that are fully completed which can leave you feeling baffled.

I get it because I did that too. I would start on so many projects that I ended up not knowing which one needed to be finished, and then none of it got finished! That left me feeling overwhelmed because now I had so many projects that needed to get done with nothing yet completed.

It got so bad, that I would walk away, and try to avoid my dilemma. The more I didn’t face it, the more I procrastinated, the worse I was making the situation. I felt like I was on a runaway train that couldn’t be stopped and would only end up in disaster.

What I learned was…

Focus and complete one task at a time.

You might be able to complete two tasks at once such as you see here in this picture…

You might be thinking, “Wait, I thought you said you can’t multi-task.”

You’re right… don’t let this picture fool you.

I might be able to hoop and talk at the same time, but I am not able to do other hooping tricks or learn to do new hooping tricks with the phone in my hand.

Depending upon the importance of the phone call I can easily miss out on important details because I am not giving my full attention.

It might look like I can do both activities at the same time, but the reality is that it’s much better to focus on one activity at a time to reduce the time to complete an activity and reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed.

Usually the overwhelmed feeling leads to procrastination.

The moral of this story is…

You can switch from one activity to another activity but focus on one activity at a time to reduce feeling of being overwhelmed. Feeling overwhelmed can lead to procrastination. When you focus on one task at a time you achieve better results in completing a task, and you won’t miss out on details that may be important.

I may be able to hoop and talk on the phone at the same time, but I definitely get a better result when I do one or the other and not both at the same time.

Remember:

You can only truly pay attention and focus on one thing/task/activity at a time. Don’t be fooled into thinking you can and are good at multi-tasking.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

May HOOP With Grace

Have you ever felt out of balance? Have you ever felt that your mind, body, spirit, home, or work is out of balance, and that one misstep may tip you over and make you fall? What do you do when you feel this way? What do you do to bring balance back into your life and make everything feel alright again?

We have all felt out of balance one way or another.

We have so many responsibilities and so many things we want to accomplish that it can be difficult to manage.

Sometimes it can feel like we are spinning plates on a stick and we have to constantly keep our eye on everything to make sure that all the plates keep spinning to prevent them from falling.

If we have too many plates spinning and we start to get tired to the point where we can no longer keep up, then the likelihood is that one, a few, or all of the plates will fall.

When we feel we can’t keep up, we’re out of breath, and we’re exhausted from trying so hard, that is the feeling of being out of balance.

We we’re usually already out of balance way before we start to feel it without even realizing it.

When we are out of balance, we feel like we’re tilting, and constantly trying to regain our balance. But we know that at any given time we may fall if we don’t tilt the right way to gain our balance back.

The question you might be asking yourself is, “What does balance have to do with a hoop?”

While I may use a hula hoop as a tool to help me to balance (like physically during my tree pose in yoga), I have also learned more about the meaning of the word balance.

When I feel that I am balanced I feel that the activities that I am doing are more manageable, and there is a feeling of ease and flow.

You might feel the same way; that when you are balanced you feel that activities are manageable, easy, and there is a comfortable flow that moves you along from task to task.

What can we do when we feel out of balance?

We can exercise when we feel our energy is low to bring it back up. We can journal and write down our thoughts and feelings when we feel emotionally low to empty out all of the negative thoughts and feelings to allow positive thoughts and feelings to enter. We can take time to rest such as unplugging from the devices or taking a nap. We can listen to music to uplift our spirits. These activities may help temporarily or long-term depending upon your mood and situation.

Most of the time we are out of balance because we have too many things to do that need to be completed here, there, and everywhere. We try to give our focus, time, and energy to everything and we try to make sure that it is equal throughout. We try to focus the same amount of time and energy to home, work, community, projects, etc. that we end up feeling more out of balance rather than maintaining good balance.

One of the things we can do is to focus on a fewer activities. There might be a lot of things we have to or want to get done, but focusing on a few items at a time will make things seem more manageable.

Another is to avoid thinking too far ahead. As you start to work and complete one of the tasks, don’t think too far ahead to all the other tasks that still need to be completed. It may make you feel like you’re never going to keep up.

Prioritize to do tasks so you can easily focus on one task, and complete complete it then move on to the next task that you want to complete and so on.

Sometimes focusing on the outcome or result that will be achieved may also help. You might not enjoy an activity and it might feel like a chore. This may make you feel out of balance or out of alignment. When you focus on the outcome or result that will make your heart sing it may help to bring balance and alignment back to you.

There might be some activities you want to do, but might feel too tired to complete. So don’t beat yourself up if you don’t complete a task or skip an activity because you’re not up to doing it.

Sometimes we need to get out of our head and follow our heart as to what activities we want to complete or we might want to skip for today.

Give yourself permission to not complete or to skip an activity.

So, after sharing all of this…you’re probably still wondering “what does this have to do with a hula hoop?”

As I mentioned earlier I can use my hula hoop to help me to balance as part of my physical exercise. Sometimes I am so busy that I don’t have time to hula hoop.

I might want to hula hoop, but after doing some of my other important tasks I am just too tired and don’t feel like hula hooping.

When the hula hoop is not going to make my heart sing that day I give myself permission to skip it and not to overthink it so I can be in my place of balance.

What I learned was…

Stop overthinking. One of the best ways to obtain balance is to follow your heart. Choose a few tasks (no more than three) you want to do. Focus on what you want to do and complete those tasks. Allow breaks when you feel you need it.

By choosing the tasks you are following your heart. When you do tasks because you are obligated to do them, then you are being led by your brain which can lead to imbalance due to overthinking.

When you do activities led by your heart you will feel more at balance.

The moral of this story is…

Balance comes from within by following your heart. Choose a few activities (no more than three at a time) to focus on that which comes from your heart and not your head. Give yourself permission to take breaks. Allow yourself to skip activities if it feels it is led by your head and not your heart. When something comes from your heart it won’t feel like a chore, but rather it will give off energy, flow, and the feeling of balance.

I enjoy hooping, but I give myself permission to skip it when my heart isn’t in it. I have gone days without hooping and when I feel guilty about it, I know the guilt is coming from my head and not from the heart. When I hoop with my heart, I can feel the balance and flow of my hula hooping. When I hula hoop because I should, I don’t feel the flow and I end up feeling more frustrated and imbalance with my hoop.

Remember:

Follow your heart and get out of the head. Stop overthinking and follow your heart to allow the flow and balance to occur.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

June HOOP With Grace

Do you like having fun? Do you find it easier to learn, retain information, or complete challenging or mundane tasks when you’re having fun?

We all love having fun!

Tasks appear to be easier to learn and complete when we’re having fun. The opposite is true when we aren’t. I get it. I’m all for having fun! Everything seems easier when you’re having fun.

There is a quote,

“Sadness is all work, no play.”

This is so true when learning to hula hoop.

When I am not having fun, it’s hard to be motivated to learn a new hooping trick.

This clearly looks like someone who is not having fun.

Sometimes when we’re not having fun and the tasks or activities feel more like a chore, i’s also when most of us feel like giving up or quitting altogether.

I have certainly felt that way many times when practicing a hooping trick. Especially when the trick felt more like a chore than just having fun.

I have certainly felt that way in many areas in my life apart from hooping too.

The trick I learned from practicing my hooping trick is to have fun.

Another great quote is

“Laughter is the best medicine.”

Laughter helps to release tension, so it’s okay to laugh at yourself and at your mistakes!

Sometimes I stop what I’m doing, stop my practice, and jump through the hoop as if it were a jump rope.

Sometimes I just start dancing with my hoop in any (crazy) style because it makes me smile and laugh when I’m just jumping or dancing with my hoop.

Learning and completing tasks or whatever the activities might be is always easier when you’re having fun and have a sense of enjoyment.

That is why we enjoy vacations so much and I don’t think anyone ever complained about a vacation where they had fun.

People complain about vacations when they didn’t have fun. Like if the vacation felt more like a chore because there was one big challenge after another, or it felt like work and  therefore unrelaxing.

The moral of this story is…

Have fun! When we have fun, the challenging activities or mundane tasks won’t feel like such hard work.

Anyone who knows me will tell you that I laugh at myself all the time. I can see the humor in most situations even when things don’t work out or when I make mistakes. Laughter is my stress reliever. It reminds me to have fun, and realize not everything is all bad or doom and gloom.

Remember:

Laugh often. Learning, completing challenges, or finishing mundane tasks goes by faster when you’re having fun. Another quote for you before I go, “Time flies when you’re having fun.” All tasks get done before you know it when you’re having fun.

Time sure flew while I wrote this blog story. I hope you enjoyed reading this blog story as much as I enjoyed and had fun writing it!

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

July HOOP With Grace

What does it meant to be a warrior when you don’t feel like one? What does it take to be a warrior? How can you become a warrior?

One of the yoga poses is called the Warrior Pose. This got me thinking, “What does it means to be a warrior?”

What does the word “warrior” mean to you?

Who do you think of when you hear the word “warrior”? Is it a superhero? A regular person who stood up for their beliefs? A person who stood up for you? Are you the ‘warrior’?

And what does a hoop have to do with being a warrior, you might ask? Good question!

There are times that as much as I try to maneuver my body and hoop (which is known as “HoopYoga”) that I don’t feel much like a warrior.

There are times that, no matter how much I try, things just don’t seem to work out. And rather than feeling like a warrior I feel more like this…

I felt like giving up. I felt defeated and say “I quit. That’s it, I’m done.”

Maybe you have felt that way as well.

The question is, how do we keep going when we want to quit and we feel so defeated?

Some people might cheer you on or you cheer yourself on, “Keep going, that’s it, you can do it!”
Some people might bully you or you bully yourself, “Come on, you can do it!”
Some people might sympathize, “I know it’s hard, but you can do it!”
Some people might say or internalize, “Keep your eyes on your prize (your dream)” to help you keep your motivation going and keep you moving forward.

Sometimes the cheering, bullying, or sympathizing may help, but it doesn’t always work.

Another question is, what stops us from feeling like, or even becoming the “warrior” that we’re meant to be?
Usually it’s fear that stops us from becoming warriors.
Which fear is it? Is it the fear of failure? Is it the fear of standing out? Standing up for up for ourselves? Is it the fear of being made fun of? Fear of conflict? Guilt? Or blame?
For some it might be just one of these fears, for some it can be a few or all of these, and for others it might be a completely different fear.

The final question, is how do we befriend our fear so we can become a warrior?
That’s a very good question.

Some people suggest befriending your fear through gratitude. When you focus on what you are grateful for you are mindful of all the good things in life and distract yourself away from your fears.

Others suggest thinking of fear as false evidence appearing to be real. Realize that fear is all in our mind and that it is not real. Fear is an illusion.

Some say turn your fear into stepping stone. Taking one small step at a time towards your dream.
Some people use this mantra to help them to take the small step, “Let your faith be bigger than your fear” which means feed your faith and starve your fear.

The moral of this story is…

It’s not easy to be a warrior, and yet there is a warrior in all of us when we choose to be the one. We choose to be the warrior when we choose to befriend our fear and let our faith to be bigger than our fear.

We have all felt like quitting or have felt defeated at one time or another. I certainly have. There are times when fear may have gotten the better of us. (Fear has certainly gotten the better of me on numerous occasions!) And yet we’ve found some way to keep going and doing what was needed to achieve our goals and dreams. I am still on my path and continuing on…

Remember:

Befriend your fear when it shows up. Believe you are a warrior, and your warrior self will show up.

Here is a picture of me in my warrior pose with my hoop.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

August HOOP With Grace

What do you do to celebrate yourself? How often do you celebrate you? Do you celebrate yourself for every good thing you do, or for your accomplishments?

I am all about celebrating this month because it is my birthday month! Woo hoo!
I am a year older, and a year wiser.

I am all for wisdom!

Being that this month is my birthday month, it got me thinking about celebrations.
We celebrate on special occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, etc.

How many of us celebrate every day? Do you celebrate every day?

There are plenty of things to celebrate that we do every day. The celebrations don’t have to be big or elaborate. We can all celebrate just by doing small things to treat ourselves.
I think sometimes we become so busy that we forget to celebrate us.

You’re probably wondering what does hula hooping have to do with celebrations anyway?!

Here is a picture of me not in a celebrating mood and totally ignoring my beautiful hoop even though it is clearly there.

You are doing the same thing with you.

Think about all the activities and tasks you did, and you ignored how hard or what wonderful work you did for that day. It’s as if you ignored yourself and your accomplishments that you made on that day

Focus on the activities or tasks that you got done rather than thinking about the activities and tasks that you didn’t finish, or all the mistakes you made. When you focus on all the activities and tasks that you got done on that day, you realize there are plenty of things you can celebrate.

The other part is also celebrate all you (and I mean all of you). The good, bad, and ugly. We all have the good, bad, and ugly, and that includes me. It makes up who we are, and all of these parts can be transmuted depending on the situation.

The good can be transmuted to the bad and ugly, and the bad and ugly can be transmuted to good depending on the situation and what we do to transmute these parts.

Here is an example of this: Nurturing is usually good, but too much of it can feel like smothering to another person. Aggression is bad, but with the right tone and words it can feel more like being assertive which is not a bad thing. Losing your temper can be ugly, but when you learn from it and learn how to be more patient, then you have transmuted it to become a good thing.

Coming to a full hooping circle… It’s all about celebrating you (all of you) every day because life is short, so why not celebrate you for all you have accomplished on that day because no two days are ever exactly alike.

Here is a picture of me celebrating me with my hoop!

One of the ways I celebrate me, and my day is hoop dancing, baby!

You have heard the saying, “Time flies; it flies never to be regained.”

Enjoy every moment because the moment will never repeat itself. The moments may appear similar at times, but it is never the same.

The moral of this story is…

Celebrate you every day. Small simple celebrations are all that is needed such as giving yourself a pat on the back, buying yourself a small inexpensive gift, or shouting out loud, “You rock!”

The fact is we don’t live forever, so it’s time to celebrate our lives every single day that we are living. Even on bad days, there is a little something to celebrate such as the fact you survived your bad day, and tomorrow will be better.

Remember:

This day will pass, you wake up to a new day, and each day is different in its own way. Take time to celebrate you each day because you deserve it.

I am sing along to the song “Celebration” by Lionel Richie and the Commodores.

All this talk and singing about celebrating got me going so I am taking off to do some celebrating of my own!

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

September HOOP With Grace

What are you manifesting, want to manifest, or have manifested? In what area of your life do you feel abundance?

I like to think of September as the month of appreciating all of your hard work that you have done thus far. Looking at how far you have come and what you have manifested in your life from the fruits of your labor.

Look at what has been manifested and what abundance have been created from your hard work.

Of course there might be some areas in your life that you may not feel abundant, and what you wanted to manifest in your life may not have come to fruition.

And you’re probably wondering what does this have to do with hooping?

You might be able to relate to this picture… the feeling of disappointment after all the hard work, blood and sweat, and you don’t see or feel the abundance in your life.
In other words, no results, nothing new, no abundance…absolutely nothing came from all the hard work you put into creating what you wanted in your life.
This can be with anything in your life, including hooping.

When a hooper can’t master a skill after hours of practice, when a hooper can’t bring all the hoops he or she owns due to space, or when a hooper only has a few hoops and would love the ability to purchase more hoops of different colors and sizes.

Here is a lesson I learned, and it might help you. Rather than focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have.

You may not have achieved the results you wanted, or you may not have gained anything new from all your hard work.

Focus on the good hard work you have done and accomplished and what abundance was created out of that.

If you look at what you do have rather than what it isn’t there, you will realize you’ve gained some things that you didn’t realize you had. Shift your focus and you will see that you did gain some results and gain some good things in your life. You just didn’t know they were there because you were focusing on lack rather than what is there, what you do have.

One of the things I wanted to manifest in my life was the ability to hula hoop. With hours of practice, I managed to learn some hooping tricks, to do some hoop dancing, and purchase several hula hoops along the way for some hooping fun.

I don’t have tons of hoops that some hoopers have because I am not striving to be a professional hooper. I am striving to add some fun into my life and hooping allows me to have fun with the added benefit of exercise.

I am appreciative for the few hoops I do have and several basic and intermediate tricks I have learned and mastered enough for me to do some hoop dancing.
I have manifested a few hooping flows that most expert hoopers do while dancing, and I don’t know how to do any of the advanced tricks. However, I have come a long way with my hooping, and I am just going to take time to enjoy the fruits of my labor for now.

The moral of this story is…

Focus on what you have accomplished, manifested in your life that you wanted, and the abundance that you have in your life. When you focus on what you lack, you might create more of it due to negative feelings from it and this can lead to a decrease of motivation.

The fact is we all have the tendency to focus on what we don’t have, what we still want to manifest, and where we don’t feel abundant, and the areas in our lives that we would like to have more abundance. Many of us want to manifest love or a career we would love, or manifest and have more abundance of time, money, and lifestyle freedom.

Sometimes what you think you are lacking may be an abundance in someone else’s eyes. For example, you might feel you don’t have enough money in your bank account and would love to manifest more money. Someone else who sees the amount of money in your bank account may think it is a good amount compared to what they have.

Remember:

Focus on what you have in your life, and realize you have more than you thought. Appreciate the fruits of your labor.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

October HOOP With Grace

What fears do you have? What fears would you like to drop and release? What fears are sticking around and refusing to go? What can you do to get rid of or transform your fears?

In the United States, and some other countries we celebrate Halloween in October. Halloween is known for the witches, vampires, ghosts, spooky things, and horror.

Although some of us don’t like to be scared or experience fear, we tend to seek it it out in October.

You might not like creepy horror movies, but you might just end up watching one or two horror movies because it’s Halloween!

To get ready for the spirit of Halloween, the October blog story is all about FEAR…

You might be thinking, what does hooping or hula hoop have to do with fear?

Read on to find out if you dare…

How many you have the Fear Of Perfectionism?

I do my best to take care of my hula hoop; however, depending upon where I hoop, this can happen…


My beautiful hoop has blemishes. It is no longer ‘perfect’.

In what areas in your life do you feel you are not ‘perfect’ or what you are doing is not ‘perfect’?

Here’s the thing, perfection isn’t your enemy, and you don’t have to fear that you aren’t perfect.

There isn’t anything wrong with being perfect so long as you pay attention to the right details as a perfectionist that moves you forward, and not at the details that makes you stand still.

By the way, Yes, I think my hoop is beautiful and perfect with the blemishes, and it’s my go to hoop dance partner.

How many of you have the Fear Of Failure?

Who doesn’t? Even the most successful people have this fear.

One of the advices that has been shared in combating the fear of failure is through gratitude.

Have an attitude of gratitude. When you focus and think of all the things you are grateful for and what you have accomplished, you’ll forget about the things that didn’t work out.

Have you noticed that sometimes when things didn’t work out that it benefitted you in the end?

How many of you have the Fear Of Change?

How many of you stay at the job you hate because of fear of change? You would rather stay and suffer because you know the status quo.

Change is inevitable.

What I found helpful when going through changes is thinking about the lifecycle stages of the butterfly.

When I am going through changes in my life, I identify what stage I am currently at during my changes.

When you think about it…when you and I go through changes we are going through the stages and processes that the butterfly goes through. The caterpillar stage, chrysalis stage, and butterfly stage.

By thinking of my changes in terms of butterfly stages, it doesn’t seem as scary. Heck, who doesn’t like butterflies?

Here is my version of being a butterfly!

 

My hoops aren’t perfect, I am not a perfect hooper, I have failed many times with my hooping tricks, and yet I have bloomed to be a butterfly through the different changes and stages of my hooping experience.

The moral of this story is…

Focus on details that will move you forward, have an attitude of gratitude towards your accomplishments and things you have in your life at the present moment, and think of yourself as becoming a butterfly when going through changes in your life.

The fact is we all have fears. I only touched on three fears, but there are many fears out there. If I listed them all here, well, it would end up being a book, and then no one would get any sleep because of fear.

Some fears are easy to drop and release, and some fears tend to stick around for a while, and some others may make themselves so comfortable that they can’t take the hint that it’s time to leave until we kick them out!

Would you love to transform your fears and kick them out? Who wouldn’t?

Transform your fears by surrendering your fears.

According to Judith Orloff, MD, “Surrender is the divine art of letting go—the ability to flow instead of clenching, obsessing, and over-controlling.

The definition of Surrender by Dr. Mitchell Friedman, “Surrender means you change direction. You give up AND you get going in a different way. Surrender demands constant action in support of the change. To surrender is necessary to improve and realize one’s potential. That is a very important point.

Remember:

Remember the movie, “Ghostbusters”? The main characters in the movie work on capturing and getting rid of the ghosts that plague the city. Well, there are plenty of people out there teaching us how to bust our fears, and when we put into practice busting our fears, I like to think of ourselves as “Fearbusters”!

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

November HOOP With Grace

What are you grateful for? How do you keep track of what you are grateful for? Do you keep a gratitude journal or say a list of things you are grateful for in the morning before you start your day activities and/or at night before going to bed?

In the United States, we celebrate Thanksgiving on the third Thursday in the month of November every year.

I admit I love Thanksgiving because I love eating cranberry sauce, pumpkin pie, mashed potatoes with gravy and stuffing, and going into a happy state of turkey coma.

Thanksgiving itself holds a special place in my heart because of the word, “thanksgiving” and what it means to me.

The word “thanksgiving” means giving thanks which is all about gratitude.

So for my November blog story I am devoting the whole month of November to gratitude.

Of course I do my best to practice gratitude everyday; however, I must admit that there have been days or a couple of weeks where I have skipped writing in my gratitude journal.

For the month of November, rather than being mindful and reflective for just one day, I am going to be mindful, be in the present moment, and reflect everyday in November of the people, events, and things I am grateful for that has shown up for me this past year before moving into the new year.

I invite you to join me in the practice of gratitude during this month of November. Practice being mindful, being in the present moment and reflecting on all the people, events, and things you are grateful for this past year before you move into the new year.

I don’t know about you, but I can get so wrapped up in my busy day with all my to do list that I become overwhelmed. So much so that I sometimes think what do I have to be grateful for?

Sometimes I’m in my own pity party and I can’t think of a single thing I should be grateful for.

So what does this have to do with a hula hoop, you might ask?

Well, when I am in my state of being in my own pity party, it feels as if I am alone. I might start to kick things away that are important to me such as the people in my life, and things that bring me joy such as my hoop.

As you can clearly see, I am not in the state of feeling or being in gratitude, and am kicking my hoop away. Clearly there is no joy.

Would you want to spend any time with this person? (To be honest, I wouldn’t.)

One of the ways to break down the wall, is the willingness to get out of the pity party that we’ve invited ourselves into.

The other is to get into the state of gratitude. What am I grateful for?

At first you might ask this question in a sarcastic tone, but if you really are willing to step into the state of gratitude, you might come up with one thing which might sound stupid to you such as ‘I am breathing’.

Yes! Lean into whatever it is because that is a start.

Think about it… the simple gratitude toward breathing is so important. If you and I aren’t breathing, we aren’t alive. If we are not alive, we can’t try something new today.

Then, see if you can come up with another thing you are grateful for, and another, and soon you will be on a roll! And you might start to see that you have more things to be grateful for than you realized.

Clearly this person has found her flow by being in the state of gratitude.

I don’t know about you; I would love to spend time with this person.

The moral of this story is…

Find gratitude even if it is just one item because that is a start no matter how overwhelmed you might feel. Let everything go and be in the present moment when you think about things you are grateful for. Then you will start to feel and be in the flow of gratitude.

It’s easy to be wrapped up in your busy life and become so overwhelmed that you end up throwing yourself a pity party. It’s lonely when you’re in a pity party, and others can certainly join you in your pity party, but is anyone having fun?

Even if you’re in a pity party with others, you will still feel lonely because everyone is thinking only of themselves and of their own problems and issues.

Remember:

Remember you can choose to stay in your pity party by wallowing in your overwhelming stress, anxiety, whatever it might be or you can choose to leave the party by being in the present moment and being in gratitude. Which one will you choose? Choose wisely.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

December HOOP With Grace

What are your thoughts on giving and receiving? Do you find it easier to give than to receive or vice versa? What are your feelings towards giving and receiving (gifts, compliments, money, etc.)?

Many countries will be celebrating in December and some will celebrate by wishing each other Happy (Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and so forth) while others may exchange gifts or give donations to charities.

December to me is a month about giving and receiving which is the perfect way to end this blog series for 2021.

Throughout 2021 I provided content about “How One Obtains Peace (HOOP)” and you probably have figured out how my hula hoops fit into my content.

I have received great feedback from you about my blog stories as well.

The best way to create a good balance and flow is to create a balance of giving and receiving.

You might be asking yourself, What does a hula hoop have to do with giving and receiving?

I’m glad you asked.

I invite you to picture this…
Imagine that your hula hoops are a great value to you. You gave all of your hoops away because of guilt or wanting to make people happy, and then you were left none. How would you feel?

I am guessing that you might feel sad and feel like you weren’t meant to have any hula hoops which can lead you down a path of poverty thinking.

Poverty thinking that it is wrong or bad to want to keep one hula hoop when others don’t have one, or there aren’t enough hula hoops to go around, and hula hoops are expensive so it may be a long time until you can own another one.

And this can lead to…

Imagine this… Let’s say you received all the hula hoops! Yes, you might be happy because now you have lots of hula hoops; however, this can also lead to a path of greed.

Greed that wants more because you feel you don’t have enough hula hoops to satisfy all the tricks and dance moves you want to do, and you’re afraid to give or share your hula hoops because you may not get them back or receive any more.

Hopefully through the images you can see that giving or receiving too much or too little creates an unbalance flow and leaves you feel stuck.

Creating a balance of giving and receiving creates a nice balance flow of things coming and going consistently like a well-run water wheel.

When you have and are in a good balance of giving and receiving, then you will be able to maintain a happy and peaceful state of giving and receiving.

You are in peace knowing and understanding that there is a continuous flow of coming and going that never stops and thus an abundance of flow continues with ease.

The moral of this story is…

Create a balance of giving and receiving. Don’t be afraid or feel guilty about receiving and end up giving too much because of guilt. Don’t let poverty thinking or greed get the best of you and convince you that you only want to receive and not give because you are afraid of not having enough.

There is no sadness, guilt, worry, anxiety, or fear of not having enough when you are balanced. There is always enough when you are in a balanced flow of giving and receiving.

Remember:

You can create a balanced flow of giving and receiving just like a well-run water wheel. The water wheel picks up (receives) the right amount of water and dumps (gives away) the right amount of water, thus creating a continuous balanced flow with ease.

I love giving and receiving so much… that there will be new monthly blog series coming in 2022!

Yes! I will be providing and giving out new content because I love to hear and receive feedback of what you love and what to add.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.

February HOOP With Grace

Do you sometimes feel a disconnect with your communication partners creating disharmonious relationships?

When you talk to another person does it sometimes feel like you are speaking another language?

Even though you both are speaking the same literal language, does it feel like you are speaking one language and your listener is speaking in another completely different one?

You think it must be either you or the other person because somehow that person just doesn’t seem to understand what you are talking about and you don’t seem to understand what they’re saying.

Neither of you seem to understand each other and you’re both frustrated by this.

You ponder, “Do communication and relationship really have to take so much effort?”

Well, believe it or not,
I learned something about relationship and communication from my beautiful hula hoop.
With it, I have learned how to form a good relationship and communication.

You’re probably thinking,

Okay, she must be nuts! How can you possibly learn anything about communication from a hula hoop when a hoop is a thing and not a person?”

So, let me explain.

Whenever a hooper (I define ‘hooper’ as a person who knows how to hula hoop and can do at least a few hooping tricks), no matter how much or how little of an experience they have,
always have new tricks to try and learn.
New tricks can add more fun and flair to the dance routine.

There is a learning curve for every hooper who learns a new trick and it can take time for the hooper to learn and master the trick before it looks effortless.

Whenever I learn a new trick, I always feel a disconnect, a loss of connection and relationship with my hoop because I can’t figure out what I am supposed to do with it.

I have to think about where to place my hands on the hoop, how tight or loose to grasp it, or how I should move my hand and how the hoop should move around my hand or body space, and most important avoid the hoop hitting me on the head!

 

This is me trying to figure my hoop out and I just can’t figure it out. I’m thinking,
‘Come on work with me here! You and me we’re supposed to be ‘partners’ and work harmoniously together here.’

What I discovered is this…

If my head, body, and spirit space are not in alignment then there is going to be a disconnect.

What do I mean by that?

You see, when I am thinking about something else and I am not paying full attention to how my body is moving in relation to the hoop or where the hoop is in relation to my body movements,
then the hoop is going to either fly away or hit me on the head.

If my spirit is down, my body will either tend to move slower or in lower body posture instead of being uplifted and in high energy when my spirit is high and that can also affect the movement of my hoop. The hoop needs momentum and if I am not moving my body fast enough because my spirit is in low energy, then the hoop is either going to drop or hit me on the head.

When my mind pays full attention to the hoop, what the movement looks like, feels like and my body follows along with my spirit, then the hoop starts to move the way it is supposed to and I begin to learn how to master the trick and I stop getting hit on the head.

This is me loving my hoop! We’re back to being ‘friends’ because I finally learned and mastered the trick so my hoop no longer hits me on the head. Yipppeeee!

Now, you’re probably thinking,
“So, what is the point to this story? I still don’t see the connection of hooping to having good relationship or communication.”

Let’s go back to what I said earlier, about when two people are talking and neither of them understands each other and each feels like they are speaking a different language from the other person…

Why is that?

If you think about it… it’s a similar situation when a hooper is learning a new trick.

When there’s a disconnect to the relationship or to communication, it’s most likely that either one or both people are not fully listening or paying attention to each other.

As one person is talking the other person might be thinking about something else, or wondering how long they have to pretend to be listening, or due to a hard day’s work the energy level is low so their listening ability isn’t fully there. The body might be present, but the mind or spirit is not and that can create a disconnect and communication problems.

How well do you know how that person learns and communicates? Does that person respond better with auditory (hearing), visual (seeing), kinesthetic (touching), or a combination of them?

You can’t communicate by how or what you do. You have to communicate as that person would in order to create more effective communication, therefore creating a more connected relationship.

In order for me to be more effective in mastering my hooping tricks I have also learned which hoops to use.
In other words, I really learned how to use my hoops by knowing and understanding the different hoop sizes and thicknesses.

I have to know how the different hoop sizes and thicknesses can affect my hooping so I can determine which one will be better for me to practice in mastering a particular trick.
 So not only do I have to pay attention with my mind, body, and spirit, but I also have to pay attention to the hoop I am using and that will either make it easier or harder for me to master a hoop trick.

The moral of this story is…

Be present with full attention in mind, body and spirit when speaking and listening with another person to create meaningful connection which leads to better communication and relationship.

To create more effective communication learn how others like to communicate. Communicate in their style (not from your own) because the person only understands their own style.

In case you are wondering, yes, I still get hit on the head with my hoop whenever I learn new tricks. I have learned that the way my hoop communicates with me is to remind me to stay in the present moment and to stay focused to the hoop with my mind, body and spirit. I don’t get hit on the head as often as I did in the beginning, but every now and then when I am not in full focus,
I get not so gentle reminders from my hoop.

(And yes, I own several hoops of different sizes, thickness, and colors.)

What I learned from hooping can be applied to people because whenever you are creating communication (whether it be with people or in this case with a hoop,)
you have to learn and know how to communicate with the person or object  you are speaking to. Once you do it, it can become effortless which can lead to a more harmonious relationship with people or even hoops.

Remember: Communication and relationships do take work, but once you learn and know how to communicate it can become effortless and can create more harmonious relationships.

If you are driven to taking care of you and to being heard, then

Contact me here and I’ll get you started on the right path.

Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Transition Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com

ABOUT GRACE

Grace CW Liu is an expert Transition Navigator who will help you to navigate through your biggest challenges about yourself when going through your career, relationship, health, or other life transitions.

Through my programs: WORRY Eliminator, Color Code Personality, and Discover Your Sacred Gifts, I teach you how to deliberately use and navigate the program that will get you to live more of your Soul’s purpose.

As a Transition Navigator, I will help you to design, navigate, and manifest the results you want in your life with peace, happiness, ease, and grace. Together we solve your problems so that you create a whole new way of looking at life.