Find Your Unique Communication Style

Inspiration | The COMMUNICATES Game

If you’re a sensitive, introverted and conflict phobic person, who would love to be able to communicate your thoughts, feelings and desires, without the fear of arguments and criticisms, so that you can have a happy and harmonious relationship with your partner, so that you will never feel lonely again in your relationship. Stay tuned for fun and valuable information.

Hi, I’m Grace, and welcome to COMMUNICATES Game video series. Now, if you have missed the previous six videos that I have created so far, don’t worry, stay here for now. And you can always catch up with those videos later on.

So in today’s video, we’re going to be talking about inspiration in communication. So the definition of inspiration is to make someone feel they want to do something and can do it. So my inspiration for you is that you can communicate openly and honestly of your thoughts, feelings and desires, so that you are seen, heard and understood by your partner, so that you can have that happy and harmonious relationship with your partner. So let’s look at the four characters, and how they deal with inspiration and conversation.

So our first character is Stance, and Stance is our confident communicator. Hello Stance. So Stance is going to be the type of person that inspires you and your conversation. So if you had a question for Stance, perhaps you wanted an advice, or you have an idea, Stance is most likely going to be the type of person that will inspire you through advice, or suggestions, or just even by giving you support. So Stance is the type of person that wants to inspire you. When engaging in conversation, you can bet on Stance most likely will always have your back. And perhaps you are like Stance. Perhaps you aren’t the one that inspires your partner in your communication. Or perhaps you’re the one that always has your partner’s back. No matter what the situation. Or the idea that perhaps your partner shares with you, you will always have his or her back, and perhaps your like, again, like Stance, giving sound advice, at the same time allowing the person to make his or her final decision. You’re just willing to support your partner, even when perhaps you might not agree with your partner’s choice. So perhaps your partner’s like Stance or perhaps you are like Stance where you are inspiring each other in your conversation.

So this is Brash. So Brash our arrogant communicator. Now, Brash is going to be the type of person that perhaps will inspire him or herself. And perhaps you are like Brash, there are many people now who are making the decision or choices to become an entrepreneur or solopreneur. And perhaps you are one of those people that have decided to become an entrepreneur or solopreneur. And when you make the decision to become an entrepreneur or solopreneur, perhaps no one was really on your side. Perhaps you got the advice of stay in your day job, right? Because there is a mindset around having a stable income and being an entrepreneur and solopreneur of course there are risks. So perhaps you weren’t really inspired to become a solopreneur or entrepreneur, however you decided to take bold steps to take that bold action and inspire yourself instead to become an entrepreneur or solopreneur to believe in yourself that you can succeed. So that is the type of person that Brash and that might be you where you are inspiring yourself. You are inspiring yourself to take bold action, when perhaps other people are telling you not to, because of fear, however, you’re going to take that bold action that is best for you, in spite of having fear. So perhaps your partner, or the person you’re communicating with might be like, Brash, where he or she inspires him or herself. And perhaps you’re like, Brash, where you need to inspire yourself to take bold action, especially when it comes to risk. The higher the risk, the more bold action is needed, and more inspiration for yourself, where you need to inspire yourself becomes important, because you need to believe in yourself. And when you believe yourself to succeed, then you’ll start to take the necessary actions that will help you to achieve your goal. So in this case, Brash again is going to be the type of person that will inspire him or herself. And perhaps again, you’re like Brash, and you’re taking bold action, to inspire yourself to achieving your goal that you believe that you can accomplish. And you know that you can accomplish it because of your belief in you.

All right, and next, we have Gray, and Gray is our timid communicator, Gray is most likely going to get inspiration from others. So Gray is most likely going to be the type of person that will ask for other people’s advice, ask for other people’s suggestions, ideas, opinions, gather it all up, because Gray is getting inspiration from others, and helping him or her to make the choice to make the decision perhaps, or to decide whether or not to proceed and move forward based upon the ideas, suggestions and opinions that is given to Gray. So in other words, Gray is getting inspiration from others, and then from others from the suggestions and choices and advice and opinions from others, then we’ll decide whether or not to proceed forward based on the feedback that Gray is getting. And perhaps you are like Gray, where you have a big decision to make. Or perhaps you’re looking for the next title of your book, or perhaps you’re looking for something that is really important in your life. And so you would like to have other people’s ideas and suggestions, and perhaps from receiving other people’s ideas, advice and suggestions and opinions, then from there, you perhaps might get inspired as to what is the next step for you to move forward.

Here and then our next character is Blend. And Blend is our Shape Shifter communicator. So Blend is going to be the type of person because he or she can sense the mood of the person sense the situation that’s going on in the conversation. Blend is then going to be able to choose which character or characters that will be best to either inspire or be inspired in the conversation. And sometimes you might be like Blend, perhaps sometimes you need to inspire or inspire yourself in your conversation. And sometimes you might need to be inspired from other people and you can determine that by the situation and what is going on. So again, you might be speaking to someone who is like Blend, sometimes the person might inspire you or be inspired. And sometimes it might be you that is Blend, where you are inspiring someone or being inspired. Or perhaps you just need to inspire yourself like Brash. So again, Blend is able to shift and choose the character that best fits the situation that is needed in the conversation.

And the goal is for you to be The Communication Warrior. Where you can openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings and desires and know how to inspire others, when to inspire yourself, and when you need to be inspired from others. So you confidently and openly are able to know when to inspire others when you need to be inspired, when you need to inspire yourself, and when you need to be inspired from others. So you are able to confidently and openly communicate your thoughts, feelings and desires and inspire the way you need to, either for the person you’re speaking to, or for yourself, so that you get the inspiration that you need. And you give the inspiration to others as needed, so that you have that harmonious and happy relationship.

And if you don’t feel like you’re a communication warrior yet, that’s okay. I invite you to visit my website, GraceSOULutions.com. That’s GraceSOULutions.com. To see how you can book a free Communication Breakthrough Session with me where we will discover five obstacles that stopping you. And one key thing that you can do to help you to move forward.

In the next video in the COMMUNICATES Game video series. We’re going to see how the four characters Stance, Brash, Gray, and Blend deal with choosing the path in communication. So stay tuned for that.

And until next time, have fun communicating!

Let’s Play COMMUNICATES (Inspiration)

It doesn’t matter if you’re playing an actual board game, sports, the game of life, or a communication game, who doesn’t want to be inspired or want to inspire?

The definition of inspire means “to make someone feel that they want to do something and can do it”.

You can have a fun and constructive communication with your partner so that you can have a happy and harmonious relationship.

You and your partner can inspire each other to have constructive communication where you can openly communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without argument and criticism so that you’re feeling heard and understood.

Relationships are like a garden. Communication is part of that garden.

In order to have a beautiful and plentiful garden you need to tend to it and relationships are the same way.

In your garden you might plant some flowers and vegetables like roses and tomatoes.

The flowers and vegetables grow when they have been properly taken care of such as getting rid of weeds or pests.

It’s the same way with your relationships. For you to create a happy and harmonious relationship you need to cultivate your communication by getting rid of destructive communication.

You can cultivate a fun and constructive communication by being open-minded, willing to listen without judgement, throwing in some humor when appropriate, being supportive, and be inspired or inspire your partner.

You can inspire each other to have a happy and harmonious relationship by cultivating your communication so that it continues to grow and maintain good health.

The truth is that if you don’t cultivate (and continue to cultivate) your communication, then, like weeds that grow in the garden that can kill your flowers and vegetables, destructive communication can cause massive problems.

Destructive communication can smother and kill your relationships.

When communication is destructive with an abundance of arguments, criticism, an unwillingness to listen, this leads to a path of unwillingness to communicate. And when partners no longer want or think they can communicate with each other, then the relationship will deteriorate.

You can choose whether or not you want a happy and harmonious relationship. If you do then one of the important parts to having a happy and harmonious relationship is being able to communicate with one another.

That is the inspiration of cultivating constructive communication.

The truth is that you do have to work on cultivating your communication if you want to grow and have a happy and harmonious personal relationship.

Cultivating your communication doesn’t have to be hard work if you consistently work on it.

Just think of your relationship as your garden and the communication as your plant, flower, or vegetable.

If you want a beautiful relationship like your garden, then you’re going to work on getting rid of destructive communication which is like your weeds in your garden for your communication to grow in a constructive way so that you can continue to have a beautiful relationship with your partner.

You and your partner are inspired and inspire each other to grow your beautiful relationship together by cultivating your communication by removing the weeds of destructive communication so that you can maintain healthy constructive communication no matter the topic of conversation.

 

 

Yes, you’re going to need to work on and continue to work on your communication for you to have a happy and harmonious relationship. It’s just like your garden.

It’s about doing your best to inspire and cultivate constructive communication so that you can have a happy and harmonious relationship in your personal communication.


The Objective of the Game

The ‘winning’ objective is that you’re inspired, and you’ve inspired your partner to have constructive communication that supports a happy and harmonious relationship.

There are times that you might still have disagreements, and you and your partner know how to handle it so that it doesn’t lead to destructive communication.

If you managed to inspire communication that you were able to continue to have constructive communication… That’s a win!

If you still have destructive communication at times, and you’re unable to figure out how to change the communication pattern during the heat of your communication, that’s okay. Guess what?

You learned without losing.

Remember there is no losing in this game, only learning.

Learning points in this example might be:

  • What can you do differently so that you can create more constructive communication?
  • Why do you think and feel that destructive communication is occurring in the first place?
  • What can you do better next time?
  • What worked that you could continue to use?

You earn bonus points when you’re bold and step into your authenticity of who you want to portray and have a good balance of holding yourself accountable when it comes to inspiring yourself to cultivate communication in your personal relationship.

This is the Communication Warrior.

 

You know your way of inspiration… Now Go Play and Have Fun Communicating!

If you’re an introverted, sensitive, conflict-phobic person who would love to become and feel like a communication warrior then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that is stopping your from becoming a communication warrior.

Warm regards,

Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
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