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Deep Dive on Style | Sensitive Communication Tips

December 21, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace, and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.

So in the previous video, I went through the acronym COMMUNICATES. So all the necessary components in the word communicates what each of those letters represent in the word communicates all the components that is necessary to have an effortless and effective communication. So be sure to check that out.

All right, now we’re going to do a Deep Dive on the four communication styles. And again, the four communication styles are auditory, visual, kinesthetic, and auditory digital. So my question to you is, do you know your communication style?

So I’m going to just choose one. So for example, let’s say you are an auditory communicator. And so you might use words such as hear, listen, or the phrase “I hear you, I’m listening to what you’re saying.” Now, if you’re speaking to another auditory person– communicator– you’re going to use the same words, so there’s not going to be any feeling of disconnect. However, what if you are speaking to a visual or a kinesthetic or auditory digital communicator? Now you’re going to maybe feel there’s some disconnect, because you are not using the words that an visual, kinesthetic, or auditory digital communicator might use.

So I like to use this analogy: Here in America, we all speak English. So it’s kind of like we’re all say, auditory communicators in this case, because we’re all using the same words, the same language, no problem. Now, let’s say you go to visit a foreign country, say Spain, France, Germany, wherever it may be. Now they speak a different language. So think of say, the Spanish are the visuals. The French are the kinesthetic, and the Germans are the auditory digital. So if you were going to visit those countries, it would be easier for you to get around, if you spoke of some of the language of those native speakers. So if you’re going to visit Spain, it will be easier for you to get around if you spoke Spanish. If you went to visit France, it’ll be easier for you to get around if you spoke French. And if you visit Germany, it might be easier for you to get around if you spoke German. Now, of course, they might all speak English, however, you might have more of a connection. And it might be a little bit easier for you to get around if you happen to know the country’s native language.

And is the same way with the visuals and the kinesthetic and the auditory digital. If you use the words of what the visual would use– So let’s say, you know, if you use the visuals, vocabulary, such as “Oh, I imagine that this is what you’re speaking about,”or “I can see your point of view,” then you’re going to have more of a connection there rather than a disconnect. And likewise, with the kinesthetic you know, you might, even you as an auditory communicator tend to use words like hear and listen. But if you’re speaking to someone who is more of a kinesthetic communicator, then you might want to change your words to “oh, I sense that this is what you’re telling me” or “I feel like this is what all you’re trying to get at.” And then with the auditory digital, you might use words such as “I think you’re correct on this,” or “let’s analyze the data then.” So by using the words or the phrases of the other communicators that you’re talking to, now you’re going to create more of a connection, rather than a disconnect. And it’s also important, likewise, the people that you communicate with, if they happen to know your communication style, so that way they are using the words that you tend to use. So again, we’re trying to create more of a connection, rather than having that disconnection.

So knowing your communication style, and the people that you’re speaking with, their communication style, is going to help to create more of that effective and effortless communication in your personal communication.

So I hope you found the four communication styles to be helpful and how you can figure out your communication styles as well as the person you’re communicating with, so you have more of that connection. And if you would like to know more about how you can have that effortless and effective communication, then please visit my website GraceSOULutions.com that’s GraceSOULutions.com to see how you can book a free communication breakthrough session with me.

Thank you for being here. Take care. Bye for now!

Style | Sensitive Communication Tips

December 6, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace, and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.

So before I jump into today’s topic, I want to do a quick review of all the letters in the word COMMUNICATES.

So I use the acronym COMMUNICATES, and took apart each of the letters to represent what is needed– all the components that is needed to have an effective communication. So let’s start with the letter C, and the word communicates.

The letter C stands for confidence. The letter O stands for opinion, the first M in the word communicates, stands for messages, and in this case, hidden messages. The second M in the word communicates, stands for monitor feelings. The letter U stands for understanding, and in this case, uncover misunderstanding. The letter N in the word communicates stands for nurture feelings. The letter I stands for ideas. The letter C in the word communicates stands for cherish relationship. The letter A stands for attention. The letter T stands for tone of voice. The letter E in the word communicates stands for express yourself. And in this case, express yourself in nonverbal communication. And the letter S in the word communicates stands for style.

So usually when we think about style, we’re thinking about fashion, right? Like what do people usually like to wear such as business casual, Boho, jeans and T shirt. But there’s also styles to communication.

Now there are four very common styles of communication, there might be more. So feel free to do your research. However, of the four common basic communication styles are the auditory, visual, kinesthetic and auditory digital.

So auditory communicators tend to hear the words so they might just use words such as hear and listen, where the visual communicator tends to maybe see images. So as you’re talking to a visual communicator, they might start to see images. So they tend to use words such as see picture and image. The kinesthetic is all about touch and feel. So they are going to use words such as touch, feel, and sense. And then the auditory digital tends to be the thinkers. So they will tend to use words such as think, logic, analyze. So those are the four common communication styles, again, auditory visual, kinesthetic, and auditory digital.

And the next video we’re going to do a deep dive of now what are you going to do now that you know these communication styles. So I’ll go more into that in the next video.

So I hope you found this to be helpful. If you would like to create more of an effective and effortless communication in your personal communication, then please visit my website. GraceSOULutions.com. That’s GRACESOULUTIONS.com to see how you can book a free communication session with me. Thank you for being here. I look forward to seeing you here again next time.

Take care, bye for now!

Deep Dive on Expressing Yourself | Sensitive Communication Tips

November 8, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace, and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.

So today we’re going to do a Deep Dive on Expressing Yourself. And again, expressing yourself. And this case is about nonverbal communication. And with nonverbal communication, we’re talking about facial expression, and body language.

So facial expression is all about the face. So the common ones are when we see someone smile, or when you’re smiling, usually it means that you’re happy, or you’re just in a pleasant mood. When you see someone frowning, or when you’re frowning, it could be either that you’re sad, or perhaps you’re really angry, they’re really scrunching up the face. And then you know, the eyes, right, when your like, eyes are popped out, like if you’re in a surprise. So those are some of the common ones. There are many different facial expressions that one can show and as well as the body language.

And with the body language, it’s all about the hands, the tension of the muscles from the neck, down. It’s about the body positioning, posture, as well as feet positioning. And because I’m on video, you can only see me pretty much from chest up. So you really can’t see how my feet is planted or and what direction they are facing. But usually, if you know you’re talking to someone and their feet or one of their foot is planted, facing the door, usually now might be a subtle hint that that person wants to start walking away from that conversation. You might see some people in a lot of cases, crossing their arms or putting their hands or arms in front of their body. So almost like they’re protecting themselves. So it’s like a wall. And then you have some people who like to talk with their hands. And in this case, someone like me, who likes to talk with their hands, especially maybe for emphasis, or for– to help to get the thoughts flowing, of what they want to talk about. And again, with hand gestures, we need to be careful because a hand gesture might be okay for one country. But it might have a different meaning in a different country.

So just be aware of that as well as like eye contact. Again, the facial part and sometimes the subtlety is that sometimes some people might look off to the side, depending upon which side it could either be that they’re trying to make up a story. Or they’re trying to recall, some memory to share. And I know there’s a lot of experts out there all about body language that’s all they really do is they study all these different body language to understand these little subtleties of the shifting of the eye or the shifting of the body. So, I’m only just giving a very brief overview of the different possibilities.

However, if you would like to know more about body language, I suggest that you go and do some research on your own, look at some YouTube videos or read on some books because there’s a lot of components to the body language. But generally we can see the person’s expression just based on an overall general vibe. And that would be just the facial expression itself, you know, a smile or frown. As well as the body of you know, usually we can understand that in general. Also might cross their arm, they’re in defense or putting up a wall. These type of general body language we might, understanding, use our selves when we’re talking to someone. However, again, if you truly want to understand about how the person is reacting or responding to you in a conversation, and you want to really understand it, by looking at the subtleties, then I suggest you do more research because there’s a lot out there and a lot of components, a lot of subtle gestures that you might miss unless you really look at it carefully and closely.

So I hope you found this to be helpful. Well, if you would like to know more about how you can have more of a effective and effortless communication in your own personal communication, then please visit my website GraceSOULutions.com that’s GRACESOULUTIONS.com to see how you can book a FREE communication session with me. I look forward to seeing you here again next time.

Take care. Bye for now!

Express Yourself | Sensitive Communication Tips

November 2, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips. So today we’re going to talk about Express Yourself. Now in communication, it’s not just about the words or, you know, the tone of voice, and all that. Part of communication is also nonverbal communication. And so with nonverbal communication, how one can express themselves is through Facial Expression, and Body Language. So those are two ways that one can express themselves through nonverbal communication that, again, is one Facial Expression, and two Body Language. Of course, there’s other ways to express yourselves, you know, through dance, music, art, whatever it may be on the creative side. However, with communication, we’re talking about nonverbal communication, and that would be using facial expression and body language to express yourself. So that’s a quick short overview of expressing yourself through nonverbal communication. On the next video, I’m going to do more of a deep dive on expressing yourself through nonverbal communication. So I hope you found this to be helpful. And I look forward to seeing here again next time when I do more of a deep dive. If you would like to know more about how you can work with me to create a more effective and effortless communication in your personal communication, then visit my website, GraceSOULutions.com. That’s GraceSOULutions.com to see how you can book a FREE communication breakthrough session with me. Thank you for being here. I look forward to seeing you here again next time. Take care. Bye for now!

Deep Dive on Tone of Voice | Sensitive Communication Tips

October 19, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.

So today’s video is about Tone, the Tone of your voice. So I’m going to use the acronym TONE to explain tone of voice. So the letter T stands for true self. So that means being yourself. So however you might deal with a situation or feel about a situation or an opinion, be free to express yourself through your tone of voice, whichever tone of voice you feel is appropriate in that given situation, or in stating your opinion, the letter O for tone of voice stands for Opinion. So depending upon your opinion, you might use a certain tone of voice to express your opinion to that situation. And the letter N stands for Nature or being Natural. And the letter E stands for Experience. There are so many different tone of voice, there’s the uplifting, the enthusiasm, assertive, so many different tones of voice. And then based on the tone of voice that you’re hearing, that kind of plays a part in how you perceive the conversation, you know, how the person is actually feeling about a certain topic or what is going down the path in that conversation. So this is again, one of those puzzle pieces that, along with everything else will help to hopefully, putting it together, make a conversation flow, rather than having it break down again.

So I hope you found this to be helpful as in regarding to the tone of voice, if you would like to learn more about how you can have a effortless, effective communication more constructive conversation in your personal communication, then please feel free to visit my website, GraceSOULutions.com That’s GraceSOULutions.com and see how you can book a free communication breakthrough session with me. Thank you for being here. I look forward to seeing you here again next time.

Take care for now. Bye!

Tone Of Voice | Sensitive Communication Tips

October 5, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.

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Deep Dive on Attention | Sensitive Communication Tips

September 21, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace, and welcome to sensitive communication tips. So today we’re going to do a deep dive on a tension. But before we start that, just want to do a quick review. In the previous video, I talked about the word communicate what each of those letters stands for thus far. So we still have a few more letters to go through. But those will be coming up as we moved towards the end of the month, so each letter for each month, all right. And then I also gave you some tips as to what to do say if you’re speaking to a person who is doing an another activity. So just watching TV, listening to music, whatever it is. So if the other person is distracted, you want to limit the distraction as much as you can, either by muting, turning it off, calling that person getting that person away from that distraction, whatever it is, so that you have that person’s attention, so that you can clearly make sure that they now have your message you want to share. The other way to get the attention is if you’re in separate rooms or separate parts of the house, you either want to walk to that person or call that person. So that person is now coming towards you to where you are located. So again, you have each other’s attention when communicating sharing messages, because part of communication is not just about words, and body language and all that those are all very important. However, you also need to make sure you have the person’s attention because delivery is just as important as making sure you have the person’s attention and how you deliver depends if whether or not you have that person’s attention. So then, if you can tell already, I am big on attention.

So making sure that again, you have that person’s attention by eliminating distractions, and also making sure you are both located at the same location. And sometimes you might have a hectic morning, afternoon, evening, whatever it is rushing around doing activities, or going from one activity to the next or one place to the next, whatever it is. So before you let the person go, especially if you have an important task for that person to do, you don’t want that person just to fly by, you want that person to stop and repeat or paraphrase what you said. One, it gives you a peace of mind that they got your message. They know what you want them to do. And second, it also helps them to remember what it is you want that person to do. Because when you bring in the attention and the focus, and also helps with memory. Now, on today’s video with a deep dive on attention, I want to talk about more about what to do when you’re talking to a professional such as a doctor lawyer, having a porter meeting, whatever it is what to do in those situations, when you need to make sure you have the person’s attention, you have a limited amount of time. And you want to make sure that you give yourself a peace of mind as well. So I am going to use the example of a medical office, being that I came from a medical background. So I know a lot extensively of what happens am in the doctor’s office, alright, so if you are already doing the suggestions that I am going to be presenting good because that means you’re already advocating and doing whatever it is that you need to do to give yourself a peace of mind. And if you are not doing the things that I am suggesting here, then my recommendation is that you choose whatever strategies that will work for you to help to give you a peace of mind. When you’re in a doctor’s office. You know, doctors are busy because they’re seeing patients they got a schedule and sometimes they do run behind and everything. However, when you have the time with a doctor, and you know not that the doctors not focused on you, but as you’re speaking to the doctor, every now and then they’re also looking at a time to see you know how much time they have left with you because they also have to make sure that they give themselves enough time to get to the next patient. And also, sometimes they might not think of everything because you’re in it so much that they might not think of all the questions that each patient might have. So my suggestion is First, write down all the questions that you might possibly have for the doctor, write it all down, you know, don’t say, Oh, I have it in my head. Because when the doctor is presenting some information to you, you’re so busy processing everything that you’re hearing that all of a sudden, all of the questions that you might have had goes out the door. So be sure to write down all the questions on a piece of paper and bring it with you to the doctor’s office, all the questions that you feel like you might want to ask, so that when you’re in the office, and a doctor sharing some results, or sharing whatever it is, that you have some questions already, because, again, you’re processing all the information that the doctors giving you. And you’re so busy with all that, when you have the questions in front of you, you can just say, oh, yeah, I was gonna ask about this. And so it’s all right there. So you don’t have to try to wrack your brain to think about what the questions were that you wanted to ask. And also, by looking at the questions, some of the answers that were provided by the doctors have, have maybe already answered some of your questions. And then there’s like, Great, okay, I don’t have to ask these questions, then he already addressed them, I already know what’s what I need to know. Also, don’t be afraid to take some notes, if you need to, the doctor is going some information, you want to kind of remember, you can always say your doctor, I just want to jot some things down. So that way, I don’t forget them later on. Because I don’t know about you some things I’m good with memory. And some things I am not so good with memory. So it’s always good to write things down. So that you have it again for later for peace of mind. Okay. And then on your part, because there are so many things, perhaps you want to remember, at the very end, the doctrine typically always asked, Do you have any questions for me now, this is a time where again, when you can pull out the questions that you have pre written, I also suggest that you just do a quick review, you don’t have to go word by word verbatim of what the doctor just told you through, however, the 45 minute or whatever, minute sessions that you had together, but you want to have some clarity. And also, to clarify what you heard. So you could do a quick paraphrasing, of you know what the doctor said. So if the doctor says, you know, you need to take a certain medication for this, and this medication is going to help you with that. So you could just say, and then he might ask you, do you have any questions? So this is where you could just say, okay, so what I hear you saying is, I need to take this medicine for this amount of times for this purpose, and this medication, this amount of time, for that purpose, am I missing anything? And then this is where the doctor can either say, Yes, you got it all. Or, you know, oh, no, you just met, you just got that medication reverse this one is for this, this one is for that, then it helps you to make a better understanding of, you know, the medications that you have to take. So a lot of times, it also helps to make sure that you have the clarity of what it is that you are hearing, and that you are actually processing the information correctly. So that when you go home, you know exactly what you need to do as far as the medications, or the test result that you received. Again, writing it down,

paraphrasing it back to the doctor will all help, again, with the clarity. And by doing this, you are also bringing the focus of what is being said to you, and to help you with the peace of mind. Because if you just kind of like just sit there, and you know, you just kind of listen to your doctor, and then then, you know, the doctor says Do you have any questions, anything like that? And you say no, I’m good and stuff like that. Well, you were listening, but you weren’t truly engaging or focused. So that by the time you go home, you might be thinking I think the doctor mentioned about this, but I’m not sure did he say something about this and yeah, he told me to take this medicine I think is for this, um, but I’m not really all that Clear, you know. So, it there’s a difference between being an active listener and being fully engaged. And that means the full focus and attention so that you have the clarity, and you have everything that you need for your peace of mind, as well as making sure that the minister you spend with the Medical Doctor in this case, is well spent, right. So you can put into practice these suggestions. And any situation such as you know, maybe when you’re talking to a lawyer, or when you are engaged in an important meeting, where you’re working through contracts, whatever it is, I just gave an example of, like I say, the medical office in those cases, because of my background, however, you can apply these, these strategies that I talked about, and any important meetings, especially when time is of the essence, right, you want to make the most of the time that you have with that person or in that meeting. So again, if you have any questions, you know, make sure you kind of write them down beforehand. I always say keep paper pads or an a pen handy. So that way you can jot notes as as you need to. And then again, if the when the person asks, Do you have any questions?

If the person has already addressed all the questions that you have written, rather than just saying no, then this is where you can say, I just want to make sure that I understood what you said. So basically, your you said, XY and Z, and you’re basically just paraphrasing really quickly, what you heard, that is important to you for your peace of mind. And again, if the doctors or whoever asked you, do you have any questions? If none of those questions that you had written down, and they’re still very important to you, then by all means, of course, by that time you want, again, yes, you can still paraphrase what you heard, and then say, Yeah, I do have a question, or I do have some questions. But before I get to my questions, I just want to paraphrase everything you just said. So paraphrase everything and make just, again, for clarity and make sure you got what ever it is a you want to get for your peace of mind. And then go ahead and then address your questions. And so you think you’re eating up time, but really, you’re not because you’re already well prepared. It’s not like you’re searching for questions up in the air. Again, if you didn’t have the pre written questions or anything. And you’re listening to all this, you know, all the information that was given to you. And you’re so busy processing the affirmation. And a doctor asked you, do you have any questions? You might have had some but you now can think about it. That’s okay. Still paraphrase, though, what you have heard so far, because sometimes by paraphrasing, what you heard, may also then jot down jot a question that may be perhaps you hacked. But basically, you just don’t want to waste too much time is saying, Yeah, I have a question. But let me see if I can remember. And then now you’re wasting kind of precious minutes, that could be better spent. So I hope that made sense. So I hope you found the suggestions to be helpful. So the big takeaway, the big tip that I have for you is, before you leave there, meaning the office, whatever it is, that you clarify the information that you received, by repeating, paraphrasing what you heard, and then have any questions that you might want to ask pre written so that you have a with you, I have pen and paper. So you are always ready to take notes. Because some of those questions might pop up as the person is sharing information. Or they might be sharing some information that you want to read, make sure you remember. So just being able to have that capability of taking notes when you need to, is also very helpful. If you have any suggestions or any tips of your own that you would like to share, please feel free to do so I only ask that you do that with respect support and kindness. And if you would like to know how you can develop more of it effective and effortless communication in your personal relation Schiff’s, then please feel free to visit my website Grace solutions.com That’s GRACESOULU t i o n s.com. And thank you for being here. I look forward to seeing you here again next time. Take care. Bye for now.

Attention | Sensitive Communication Tips

August 16, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.

Before we get into today’s topic, I want to do another quick review of what each of the letter stands for in the word COMMUNICATES that we have discussed so far in the videos. So the letter C in the word communicates stands for Confidence. The letter O stands for Opinion, the letter M stands for Messages, the letter M stands for Monitor feelings, the letter U stands for Uncovering misunderstandings, the letter N stands for Nurture feelings, the letter I stands for Ideas, the letter C stands for Cherish relationships, and then the letter A, which is what we’re gonna be talking about is Attention.

So let me ask you this, how many of you that are watching this video, have a habit of either giving the directions or asking a question, while the person you are speaking to is doing something else? And that could be watching TV, doing chores, getting ready to do cooking or getting ready for work or getting ready to do whatever it is to prepare for that day’s activity, or the next day’s activity, or you guys are in two separate rooms in the house. So you could be in the kitchen, the other person could be, say, in the bedroom, or you could be upstairs and the other person is downstairs.

Whatever it is, how many of you have actually talked to somebody asking them a question or giving them some directions while that person is not fully engaged? In other words, you really don’t have that person’s attention. Because if you had that person’s attention, that means that they’re looking at you, they’re focused on you and what you are saying to them or asking them.

So, if you have the habit, and many of us do, including me, we sometimes forget and we are just engrossed, in what we need to do. And so we might give the directions, or we might ask a question to that person without fully having that person’s attention. And then later on, when we ask them, did you do this or you get a response that doesn’t relate to your question, then we become upset at that person, when in reality, it really isn’t that other person’s fault, because we never had their attention.

So if you want to make sure that you have that person’s attention, then either one, wait until that person was finish watching their TV or whatever they are doing. Because a lot of the times when you’re telling them something like please remember to do X,Y and Z. So just take out the chicken out of the freezer. Or remember to pick up the groceries, whatever the items might be. And the person because they’re so engrossed in their program or engrossed in their activity. They just want to kind of get rid of you as soon as possible. So they’re like kind of waving you off going, “yeah,yeah, I got it, I got it, okay!” You know, so that they can kind of go back to their program. And so a little later on, you come home, like say, you know, a few hours later, and you see that the chicken is still in the freezer. And you ask them, “Didn’t I tell you to take the chicken out of the freezer?” And they might give you a look like, “Oh, I heard something about that, but I wasn’t really paying attention.” And, um, or they might say, “No, I didn’t hear you say anything about that.” And it’s like, yeah, I told you and– and they’re like, “Well, I didn’t hear you.” And it’s true, like, they probably didn’t, because again, they were engrossed in their own program.

So yes, communication, not only just words and body language and all of that. Part of good communication, having effective communication, is also making sure that you have that person’s attention. And you can do that by either turning off the TV, or muting the TV sound, so that way you can call their name, then you now have their attention. And, and you can now say to them, I need you to do this or ask them the question. So you get the correct response that you’re looking for.

If you’re in separate rooms or are upstairs, downstairs, whatever it is, either walk to that person, or call that person so that they are coming towards where you are located, so that you can properly discuss with them what it is that you need. The other is, so perhaps during the morning rush, you’re getting yourself ready or the kids ready. Everybody’s just getting themselves ready in the morning. And so you might have been on the past by saying “Oh, don’t forget to do X,Y and Z.” And the person is like, “okay,” and then grabs their keys and out the door they go.

So one of the things that you can do is before you let that person grab their keys and go, just say, “repeat back what I just said.” So one, you can get a quick clarity that they actually heard. And when you also get the repeat back, you also can make sure that they got not only the clarity, but everything that you had mentioned, or they can paraphrase. So at least this way, it not only gives you a peace of mind that yes, they got your message, but it also reinforces what the person has to do. Because now they got the focus back again, because they got clear. And they also know– it also reinforces that memory of what they need to do. So during a morning rush, it’s always good, just not to let the person leave, just say “Hey, real quick, tell me real quick, what I just said,” you know, and “I don’t have time,” “just real quick,” you know, a word or two, whatever it is, like, you know, “you said pick up dry cleaning to that person, don’t forget to pick up the dry cleaning” all the person says “Okay, pick up dry cleaning,” or they could just say “dry cleaners.” Sufficient. You know that you need to do something with a dry cleaner, something of that sort. So again, one, they are clear, you heard, you know, they heard you clearly, as well as reinforcing some of their memory of what they need to do after work or whatever it is, because now it brought back the focus, and helps them to remember what it is that needs to be done.

So that is one of the tips for Attention as far as during the morning rush. Clarity, and repeat or paraphrase. Now I– the tips for Attention itself is making sure that you Mute the TV or turn off the TV and the person is watching TV. So you’re limiting distractions that could be the radio, whatever it is that you’re calling that person’s name, they’re looking at you, you got their focus. The other is making sure you guys are in the Same Room. So either you go to them, you call them so that you bring them to you. So you guys are located in the same room, so you got the attention. So because if you don’t have their attention, there’s not going to be communication, you’re going to have what we call then the communication breakdown. Because you don’t have that person’s attention. And communication starts, especially when speaking to another person or to a group, you need to have that person or the group’s attention and their focus.

So, I hope you found these tips to be helpful. Feel free to share any comments. And again, if I only ask that if you do share any comments or suggestions that you’d be kind, supportive, and respectful. If you would like to learn more about how you can create and develop more of an effective and effortless communication in your own personal communication relationship, please feel free to visit my website at GraceSOULutions.com That’s GraceSOULutions.com to see how you can book a free Communication Breakthrough session with me. Thank you for being here. I look forward to seeing you here again next time.

Take care, bye for now.

Deep Dive on Cherishing Relationships | Sensitive Communication Tips

August 4, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace, and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.

So, in today’s video, we are going to do a Deep Dive on Cherishing Relationships in your communication. A couple of weeks ago, I gave you some tips on cherishing relationship and your communication.

So just a quick recap, I invited you to take on that “you are 100% responsible in your relationship,” and in this case in your communication. And I also then gave you my take on cherishing relationship using the acronym WORDS. So today we’re going to talk a little bit more about what WORDS stand for.

So real quick, the letter W stands for Wisdom. And what I think about it is that, you know, words have power. So, there’s two ways you can think about wisdom; using your words wisely, since words have power, or using your wisdom, to share, to educate, with other people, so that everybody can get the benefit from your wisdom. So that’s my take on the word wisdom there. Again, words have power, so knowing what words to use. So again, using your words wisely, and then also wisdom, you have plenty of wisdom. So, you know, be sure to share and educate others with your wisdom, so that everybody can get the benefit.

Now, the letter O, for me means Open, and I left it open, because depending upon the situation, or the person you’re speaking with, there– you might need to be willing just to be open, open minded, or open to just to listen, again, not respond and not react, but just to listen. Be open just to listen to the to the person all the way through before, perhaps, sharing your opinion. So again, open, open to opinions. So, O can also be Observation, you observe the situation. And then you can decide how you want to proceed. And the communication based on the observation you made. So O, it’s just Open, again, is just open minded. It can be open to listening, it can be open to opinions, and it can be O, for observation.

And then R means Responsibility. And again, it means to be willing to take on that you are 100% responsible in your relationship, and in your relationship to how you communicate to yourself and in the relationship in how you communicate with others. So, if everyone is willing to take on that responsibility, then perhaps the communication then can move forward in more of a constructive way, as a learning opportunity rather than a destructive way. So, we want the communication to be constructive. So, if everyone is willing to take on that each person is 100% responsible in the relationship, including communication, then that means that each person is willing to do what it takes in the communication, whether it’s compromise, whether it’s just to listen or to just be there, whatever it is, so that the communication can be constructive.

And then the letter D for WORDS stands for Deliberate. That means be mindful of the words you are saying. Be mindful of your facial expression, body language, tone of voice that you are using in your communication. Be deliberate so that the person can understand what it is that you are communicating to them. So again, be mindful. That’s being deliberate, when you’re being mindful you are being deliberate in your delivery by their words. Your tone of voice body language facial expressions.

And then S, the letter S in WORDS stands for Speak. So many times, and myself included, sometimes, you know, we might tend to speak at the person rather than to the person. So, you know, let’s speak to the person and not at the person. That means not speaking behind the person’s back, not speaking on top of the other person by interrupting them, not letting them finish. So, let’s learn all together, every one of us, myself included, to speak to each other and not at each other. So that’s my take on how to cherish relationships, and communication. If you would like to learn more about how you can create and develop more of a effortless effective communication in your personal communication, then please feel free to visit my website, GraceSOULutions.com.

That’s GraceSOULutions.com to see how you can book a free Communication Breakthrough Session with me. I look forward to seeing you here again next time. Thank you for being here. Take care. And if there are any tips or suggestions you would like to share, please feel free to do so I only ask that you when you’re sharing or posting or commenting that it is respectful, kind and supportive.

And so thank you for being here. Take care. Bye for now!

Cherish Relationships | Sensitive Communication Tips

July 26, 2022 // by Preston Test

Hi there, this is Grace and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.

So in this video, I am going to be sharing tips about Cherishing Relationships in your communication. Couple of months ago, I talked about nurturing feelings and your communication, that is part of cherishing relationship. However, in this video, I’m talking about being responsible in your relationship.

So a while ago, I attended a webinar and one of the speakers, his name was Jeremy Daniels, he made a statement. And he said, “You are 100% responsible for your relationship.” Now you can agree or disagree with his statement, however, I am going to invite you to agree with the statement that you are 100% responsible in your relationship in your communication towards yourself and others.

Because if you are willing to take on that you are 100% responsible in your relationship, and how you communicate. What you say can make a big difference in your relationship to yourself and others. Think about the words that you say to yourself, the thoughts that you have towards yourself, and also towards others. And if you are willing to be 100% responsible, then you– that means that you are willing to take on the task of doing all the necessary activities that will help your communication to be constructive and more in a positive learning aspect towards yourself and with others. So if you are willing to be responsible, also realize that the person that you’re speaking to, it could be another person or to a group of people, each of those people that you are speaking to, must also be willing to take on the task that they are 100% responsible for the relationship. Because if the person that you’re speaking to is not willing to take on the responsibility of that 100%– responsibility of the relationship, then you’re going to have conflict. You might be willing to meet that person halfway or be willing to compromise and do whatever it takes, because you feel you are 100% responsible in that relationship.

So, you are willing to do whatever it takes to make sure that the relationship is built up. However, if the person you are speaking to or the group of people you’re speaking to, is not willing to take on the 100% responsibility in relationship, he or she or the group is not going to necessarily be willing to meet you halfway or do what it takes. Because the blaming might happen, or the person might step away, shut down.

And so, then there’s not going to be any movement, in that conversation. So if each person is willing to take on, that he or she is 100% responsible in the communication for building relationship, then each person is going to be willing to do what it takes, perhaps that’s to compromise, or being mindful of what is being said, you know, careful of the body gestures or facial expressions, whatever it might be, so that their conversation can continue to move forward in a constructive way.

So, I also like to think about cherishing relationship using the acronym WORDS. Now I’m just going to talk real quick about what each of the letters mean. And then in the next video, I’ll deep– I’ll do a little bit more of a deep dive explaining what each of those components are. So just real quick, for me, cherishing relationship is all about words.

So using the acronym WORDS, I broke down the tips to help maintain and cherish the relationship in your communication. So starting with the letter W in WORDS, W stands for wisdom. The letter O, in WORDS stands for Open, and I’ll go into more details about my meaning of the word open. And then the letter R in WORDS stands for Responsibility. Again, it means you are willing to take on that you are 100%, responsible, in the relationship. And in this case, the relationship in your communication. The letter D in WORDS stands for Deliberate. And then the letter S in WORDS stands for Speak. And again, I will go more in details about what all of these words that I just said, what they actually all mean. What wisdom means what the open the– and I talked a little bit about responsibility, what being deliberate means, and what do I mean by speak? So, be sure to check that out in a couple of weeks of the deep dive into cherishing relationship, in your communication to learn more about the acronym WORDS.

And in the meantime, if you found the tips to be helpful, and you would like to know more about how you can have effective and effortless communication in your personal communication, please feel free to visit my website, GraceSOULutions.com. That’s GraceSOULutions.com. To learn more about how you can book a free communication breakthrough session with me. And I look forward to seeing you here again next time.

Take care. Thank you for being here. Bye for now!

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