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Body Language | The COMMUNICATES Game

If you’re an introvert, sensitive, conflict phobic person who would love to be able to communicate your thoughts, feelings and desires without the feeling of being overlooked, overshadowed and overwhelmed, stay tuned for fun and valuable information.

Hi, I’m Grace, and welcome to The Communicates Warrior Game video series, or what I like to call The COMMUNICATES Game. If you missed the previous videos that I have done for this video series, that’s okay, stay here for now. And you can always catch up with the previous videos later.

So today’s video, we’re going to talk about body language and facial expressions. So we’re going to do so by using the four characters that we have been discussing so far.

All right, so we have our first character Stance. And remember, Stance is our confident communicator. So let’s introduce Stance. All right, so here is Stance. And, as you can see, Stance is standing up nice and tall, shoulders back, back straight. And it’s also doing a power pose. Why? Because when you’re confident, you might feel like you’re a superhero. And what do superheroes like to do? They like to stand in their power pose! Yes, they like to feel that extra power, that confidence that they have in helping people, right? So you might be like Stance, the confident communicator, where you are standing nice and tall and straight. And you feel like that superhero because you’re helping and empowering people in your own way, whatever it is that you do. Now, as you can also see, Stance has a smile on the face. And why does Stance have smile on his or her face, because Stance is a type of person that is happy, passionate and enthusiastic about what he or she is sharing. And when you have that passion and enthusiasm, what are you going to do, you’re going to smile naturally, right? So when Stance makes eye contact, it’s going to make the person feel inclusive, and perhaps you’re like Stance, the confident communicator so that when you make eye contact with that person that you’re speaking with, or the group that you’re talking to, you’re going to make them feel inclusive. So you’re going to make the appropriate eye contact, just the right amount of eye contact, so that the person knows that they are included into your conversation. And you are engaging them in the topic that you’re discussing, because you want them to also feel the passion and the enthusiasm of the topic that you’re discussing, or you want them to feel inclusive, in the discussion. So you’re going to help the person or the group that you’re speaking to, to feel inclusive by making the appropriate eye contact, as well as having a smile on your face, standing up nice and tall and believing when you’re speaking about so that the people can also feel the same passion and also feel they are part of the discussion. And everyone is included. Right? Everyone’s included in the discussion. No one is left out and everyone feels empowered in the topic. All right. So that is Stance.

All right now we have Brash, Brash is our arrogant communicator. So as you can see, Brash also has the big positive posture, right, the shoulders back standing up straight, great posture. However, Brash is not afraid to take up space, and perhaps Brash is also going to take up your personal space. Why? Because again, Brash is interested in making him or herself look great and stand out in the crowd. Brash is also going to be the type of person who makes eye contact with you. But it almost feels like it’s a stare or a dare. Right? When Brash, makes eye contact. It’s more like Oh, who is going to be the better person that comes out of this? So it’s almost like a dare As in, I dare you to be the best or I dare you to be, like better than me where it’s almost feeling like who is going to show up as the best person. So, perhaps, sometimes it is necessary to be like, Brash, right? You know, like I say, there’s no good or bad characters, all characters are necessary. And sometimes because of the hard work you have put in, and you know, all the things that you have done. And you would like to have that recognition. And nobody in– perhaps is recognizing, so what do you have to do, right? You– you want to show up. And so, you know, perhaps, you know, you do show up as like Stance, but nobody stills paying attention. So now you’re going to show up as Brash, be bigger than you know the person or be bigger as or as big as you can be? Right? So that you’re taking up space, and so that people are now noticing you noticing your accomplishments, noticing all the work that you’ve done, so that you can finally be recognized for the hard work that you have put in. And so, you know, sometimes it’s necessary to be like, Brash, and sometimes you might encounter someone who’s like, Brash. And so sometimes you might be in a situation where you are in the presence of someone who is like, Brash, and perhaps wants to be the type of person that wants to be the best to stand out. And then it’s up to you to decide or to choose whether or not you’re going to outshine Brash in by being Brash yourself, or if you’re going to step back a bit and be a different character. So, again, Brash is just interested, and looking the best in the group, right? So and by doing that, it’s, you know, perhaps the eye contact might almost be like a dare like, of, you know, I dare you to be better than me, I dare you to, you know, outshine me. And also the body language is, you know, they’re going to stand up tall, and perhaps almost feel like they’re taking up space and taking up your space and taking up everyone’s space. So that again, the only person that is shining and is looking the best right again, is going to be Brash. Alright, so now we’re gonna move on to our next character.

Alright, so our next character is Gray. And again, Gray is our timid communicator. All right, so you can see with Gray, you know, the posture is not so strong, right, it’s the back the shoulders not back, but rather rounded. And you can see that with the timid not only is the shoulder rounded, but in a way timid wants to kind of hide, right again, timid is a type of person that likes to process information doesn’t really want to stand out. So the postures in a way, kind of in a shrinking pose, so that again, Gray doesn’t stand out and blends in the background, right. So kind of goes in the background in order to be able to process the information that he or she is listening rather than stepping forward right away so Gray doesn’t necessarily want to notice right away because again, he or she would like to listen and process the information and so it’s easier to do that when you’re in the background. So a lot of the times they don’t feel like they want to stand up nice and tall and straight because again, the whole purpose is to blend in the background and in some situations Gray may make eye contact you know and it’s gonna be kind of quick it’s gonna be like a look and look away perhaps Gray might also have a smile but it’s going to be just kind of a very minimal subtle smile not a really big you know, showed the whole teeth kind of smile but just so you know like almost like that Mona Lisa type of smile I like to say just again closed mouth minimal subtle smile and again make try to avoid eye contact Gray may try to avoid eye contact again trying not to draw attention to him or herself or perhaps does make eye contact but again may just cut a eye contact and a quick look away and you know, it might be again with Gray he or she is not wanting to stand out he or she perhaps just want to listen and process what is going on. So Gray might be the shy person. And so in Gray’s mind, like you can see this picture there’s like a lot of question marks and exclamation points because there’s a lot of thoughts that is going in Gray’s mind of you know what the other person might be thinking about and all these other things that’s going on. So again, Gray is just going to do whatever he or she can to not stand out to blend, like I say into the background.

All right, and then we have our character Blend. So Blend is our Shape Shifter communicator. All right, and there’s Blend. So because blend can sense the room can sense the mood of the person or the group that he or she is speaking to or speaking, with, Blend is going to determine which character will be best in that situation is going to be the confident communicator or like Stance or is it going to be better to be like Brash or Gray because depending upon the situation, you know, in a topic, it might be appropriate to one to empower the group, right? So therefore, Blend is then going to be like Stance, or perhaps Blend feels like you know, what I’m doing all this work, I’m not getting recognized, you know, what, I’m going to show up bigger than myself much bigger, and so therefore, it might show up as Brash. And sometimes because Blend might feel like, you know, what, there’s a lot of discussions going on, I have my ideas, but you know, maybe I’m gonna hold off a bit, and I’m just gonna listen and process what some other people are saying first, before I jump in, and then you know, I’ll share so perhaps then, and that case, Blend is going to be like Gray, you know, not stand out kind of be part of the background initially, and then decide perhaps at the right moment, okay, now I’m going to be like Stance, or I’m going to be like, Brash, so with Blend again, blend is a shapeshifter. So depending upon the situation, Blend is going to use the body posture, that’s the most appropriate to the character that he or she wants to represent and the discussion.

And, of course, our goal is this, you as the Communication Warrior, where you are standing up nice and tall smile on your face. And you are communicating your thoughts, feelings and ideas the way you want to using the appropriate body language that you want to represent the message that you are sharing. So whether it be that you want to share your passion and enthusiasm like Stance, so you’re using a posture as the confident communicator, or if you want to be bigger than yourself. So you’re going to show up as Brash, using the posture as such, or you’re going to want to listen and process the information. And so you’re going to use the body posture as Gray in order to do that, or you’re going to be like Blend and be able to sense the room. And so know which character you want to be to represent how you want to show up in your communication. But whichever character you choose, you feel like that Communication Warrior, that you know exactly what body language, what facial expression you want to use, so that your message is loud and clear and understood by others of what you are communicating. So that is the goal, you as the Communication Warrior.

Now if you don’t feel like you are a Communication Warrior just yet. That’s okay. Because I’m going to invite you to book that free communication breakthrough session with me visit my website, That’s to see how you can book a free Communication Breakthrough Session with me, where we will walk through five obstacles that is stopping you from becoming a Communication Warrior, and one step that will guide you to become the Communication Warrior that you would like to be. In the meantime, if you haven’t watched the previous videos, you can go watch them now and in the next video, we’re going to see how each of the four characters Stance, Brash, Gray and Blend deal with misunderstandings when they occur in communication.

So until next time, go and have fun communicating!