[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]

In the seventh component of COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, we’re going to explore is the Importance of “I.”

If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that main characters, protagonists, can sometimes give their power away to support characters, or companions by using words like “you.” This can take the form of statements such as ‘you chose to go this way’ or ‘you made me do this’ or even ‘we wouldn’t be in this position if you had or hadn’t done […]’ as they go through their journey.

In those instances, the protagonist gave away their power when they used the word ‘you’ and at that point they stated specifically that the companion did something directly to the main characters which isn’t entirely true.

That is just part of being human and having human experiences.

What can you do to bring back the power to you?

First you have to understand that when you make comments such as “you made me feel…” or “you could have…” you gave your power away to the other person by telling the person he or she did something to you.

No matter what the other person did or didn’t do, the truth is that you have control over your feelings, thoughts, emotions, behaviors, etc.

Bring your power back to you by using “I” Statements.

Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…

Magic phrases you can use are:

I am_______.                      

I feel_______.

I know_______.

I think _______.

 

When you use “I” statements you’re reclaiming control of what you’re feel, think, or believe about what happened.

There is no blame, and no blame on the other person. You’re clearly stating what you’re feeling and wanting so you now have your power back.

As a main character in your story, you can choose to give your power away or reclaim and stand in your power with I statements to your happily ever after.