GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Energy of Words]
[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]
In the COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, the eleventh component we’re going to explore is Energy Of Words.
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that the main characters can say words that can either uplift or trigger the main characters and other characters in the stories.
Encountering different people and situations isn’t always easy and so for you, as the main character you will undoubtedly say words that might either uplift or trigger people the wrong way by what you said.
That is just part of being human and having human experiences.
Words in general are neutral, but based upon your feelings and experiences some words can either uplift or trigger you.
What do you do when a word that was said triggered you the wrong way?
Here’s an example to illustrate my point, the word decision and choice both mean the same thing. However, you might feel that the word choice feels more open and expansive while the word decision may feel more constricting and final because you’re thinking about making the final decision.
When you make the final decision, it might mean never turning back and leading you to think what happens if I make the wrong decision and I can’t turn back. I can’t undo the decision I made.
When you use the word choice you may feel more open because it doesn’t matter if you make the wrong choice, after all there are more choices, you can choose from. If one doesn’t work out, you can still have other choices you can choose from.
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrase: Words that trigger you or make you feel stuck, replace them with words that resonate and align with you.
In the illustration I provided, you would replace the word ‘decide’ or ‘decision’ with the word ‘choice’ to help uplift you and empower rather than making you feel stuck.
If the word ‘choice’ feels too open leaving you not knowing which one to choose and you’re stuck with too many choices and indecision, then find a different word that will uplift you so you can make move forward.
It’s all about finding and using the words when you speak or replacing it with words you hear that will uplift you, you’re not triggered, and it doesn’t feel hard or difficult.
As a main character in your story, you can replace words that you hear that may trigger you with words that uplift and empower you that will lead you to your happily ever after.
Magic Phrase for Tone of Voice
GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Tone of Voice]
[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]
In the COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, the tenth component we’re going to explore is Tone Of Voice.
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that the main characters can encounter situations where they used the wrong tone of voice or the person used the wrong tone of voice with the main characters as they go through their journey.
Encountering different people and situations isn’t always easy and so for you, as the main character you will undoubtedly cause an issue with someone or someone caused an issue with you by using or having the wrong tone of voice.
That is just part of being human and having human experiences.
What do you do when someone perceived you’ve used the wrong tone of voice or you perceive the person to use the wrong tone of voice with you?
You know the wrong tone of voice was used because you hear comments such as “Don’t use that tone of voice with me” or “I don’t like or appreciate that tone of voice you’re using” or “I found your tone of voice to be offensive.”
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrase (if you used the wrong tone of voice): What did my tone of voice sound like to you? Thank you for bringing it to my attention. I will be more attentive to the tone of voice I’m using.
Magic phrase (if someone used the wrong tone of voice with you): I feel your tone of voice may not have matched the intention in your message you shared.
Tone of voice can be subjective and while you might have thought your tone of voice was okay, the other person didn’t perceive it that way. It doesn’t matter if you agree or not with the perceptions.
You’re asking for clarification so you can modify, thanking the person to bring awareness to you, so you can pay attention to your tone of voice and continue to have a constructive conversation.
When you perceive the person’s tone of voice as being a certain way not to your liking you can give the person the benefit of the doubt that he or she didn’t mean to use that tone of voice in that way.
You can clearly state it by reinforcing the person’s intention and the tone of voice didn’t seem to match the person’s intention.
As a main character in your story, tone of voice can be subjective, and you don’t have to agree or disagree with the person’s perception when it comes to the tone of voice. You can choose how you want to address the tone of voice and when you address it well, this can lead you to your happily ever after.
Magic Phrase For Active Listening
GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Active Listening]
[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]
In the nineth component of COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, we’re going to explore Active Listening.
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that main characters have situations where listening becomes important. Main characters may have to listen to themselves or others along the way as they go through their journey.
Encountering different people and situations isn’t always easy and so for you, as the main character, you will undoubtedly encounter a person or situation where listening (and we’re talking about active listening) becomes important.
That is just part of being human and the overall human experience.
What do you do when you come across a situation where a person might say to you, “You’re not listening” or “You didn’t listen to what I said”?
Practice Active Listening
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrase:
Repeat back everything the person says by saying “I heard you say ______ (list everything that the person said in his or her own words).
Make sure you have the person’s attention by calling the person’s name and make eye contact so that you know, both you and the other person are ready to listen to what you or they have to share.
As a main character in your story, when you choose to practice active listening, this will lead you to your happily ever after.
If you’re an introverted, people pleaser, conflict-phobic person who would love to openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without the fear of arguments and criticisms so you can have your happily ever after, then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that are stopping you and One step to move you toward to living your happily ever after.
Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
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Magic Phrases For Complaints | GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After
GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Complaints]
[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]
In the eighth part of COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, we’re going to explore Complaints.
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that the main characters can encounter people or situations to complain about or the people, go to the main characters to complain about a person or situation as they go through their journey.
Encountering different people and situations isn’t always easy and so for you, as the main character you will undoubtedly encounter a person or situation that you want to complain about, or a person or group of people come to you constantly to complain about someone or something.
That is just part of being human and having human experiences.
What do you do when you come across a situation where you’re constantly complaining, or people constantly come to you to complain about someone or something?
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrase (if you’re the complainer):
I feel frustrated or disappointed with or about _______
(state the person or situation that is frustrating you)
What are some things I can do to improve the situation?
(make a list of what you can do to make it better such as changing your attitude, limiting contact with person, ignore the other person’s behaviors, offer suggestions to improve situation if appropriate, and so forth.)
Magic phrase (if person or people come to complain to you):
I hear your frustration about_____
(repeat back the person’s list of complaints).
What do you think you can do to improve the situation or situation with the person?
(This allows the person to think about what he or she can do to allow him or her feel empowered rather than disempowered and so he or she start to think about finding solutions to his or her own problems rather than coming to you with complaints all the time.)
You acknowledge the feeling of your own frustrations, and you also think about ways to come up with solutions to problems so that you find less things to complain about.
Complaining doesn’t help you to find solutions, it just makes you wallow in your suffering.
Solutions help to end your suffering.
When someone complains to you to constantly complain about someone or situation you show that you’re listening to that person by listing all of the person’s complaints; however, you’re going to empower the person to come up with his or her own solutions by allowing him or her think about the changes he or she can make.
As a main character in your story, you can choose to wallow in your complaints and/or listen to other people’s complaints or you can choose to empower yourself and others by finding solutions that will solve your problems to eliminate the need to complain, and this will lead you to your happily ever after.
If you’re an introverted, people pleaser, conflict-phobic person who would love to openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without the fear of arguments and criticisms so you can have your happily ever after, then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that are stopping you and One step to move you toward to living your happily ever after.
Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com
Magic Phrases And The Importance of “I” Statements | GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After
GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Importance of I]
[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]
In the seventh component of COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, we’re going to explore is the Importance of “I.”
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that main characters, protagonists, can sometimes give their power away to support characters, or companions by using words like “you.” This can take the form of statements such as ‘you chose to go this way’ or ‘you made me do this’ or even ‘we wouldn’t be in this position if you had or hadn’t done […]’ as they go through their journey.
In those instances, the protagonist gave away their power when they used the word ‘you’ and at that point they stated specifically that the companion did something directly to the main characters which isn’t entirely true.
That is just part of being human and having human experiences.
What can you do to bring back the power to you?
First you have to understand that when you make comments such as “you made me feel…” or “you could have…” you gave your power away to the other person by telling the person he or she did something to you.
No matter what the other person did or didn’t do, the truth is that you have control over your feelings, thoughts, emotions, behaviors, etc.
Bring your power back to you by using “I” Statements.
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrases you can use are:
I am_______.
I feel_______.
I know_______.
I think _______.
When you use “I” statements you’re reclaiming control of what you’re feel, think, or believe about what happened.
There is no blame, and no blame on the other person. You’re clearly stating what you’re feeling and wanting so you now have your power back.
As a main character in your story, you can choose to give your power away or reclaim and stand in your power with I statements to your happily ever after.
If you’re an introverted, people pleaser, conflict-phobic person who would love to openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without the fear of arguments and criticisms so you can have your happily ever after, then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that are stopping you and One step to move you toward to living your happily ever after.
Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com