In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.
In the COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, the third component we’re going to explore is Mood or Moody.
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that the main characters can encounter different people with different moods and the main characters can also experience moodiness in themselves as they go through their journey.
Encountering different people and situations aren’t always easy and so you, as the main character will at times feel the different moods and becoming moody at times or come across people who are moody.
That is just part of being human and having human experiences.
What do you do when you come across moody people or when you’re the one who is moody?
Someone might say something like, “You’re overreacting” or “You’re (being) too sensitive”.
What is a way to respond or say when someone makes those comments to you?
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrase: I (do) feel or felt _______(state your feeling) by the comment. I’m permitted to feel this way or I give myself permission to feel this way.
There is no blame and it’s good to state how you’re feeling by the comment because you’re stating the truth that you’re feeling.
Give yourself permission to feel and state your feelings.
Maybe you did overreact, or you were being sensitive, and that’s okay because you’re allowed to have those feelings. You are allowed to feel whatever it is your feeling.
It’s just feelings and feelings come and go, so notice your feelings, acknowledge it and know that there really isn’t a good or bad feelings even though we as humans have labeled some feelings as good and bad.
We all have had good and bad feelings, and if we’re being totally honest with ourselves those feelings can just come and go as the tides ebb and flow.
As a main character in your story, you can choose not to take the comments personally. The person making the comment is just making a comment even though it appears to be directed towards you, it’s not about you. A person speaking could be reflecting the statement back at him or her. The moodiness of the statement could be a reflection of how the other person is feeling.
You are permitted to feel your feelings and state your feelings to the person that will lead you to your happily ever after.
If you’re an introverted, people pleaser, conflict-phobic person who would love to openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without the fear of arguments and criticisms so you can have your happily ever after, then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that are stopping you and One step to move you toward to living your happily ever after.
Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
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