What does confidence mean to you?
What can you do to communicate with confidence?
Why do you want to communicate with confidence? What value will you gain if you communicated with confidence with a specific person or persons?
What does communicate with confidence look like to you?
Have you ever had this image in your mind?
You are in a room with the person you want to speak with, and you speak with that person with confidence.
The both of you are engaged in the conversation and you understand each other.
For once, you felt that someone heard what you said and understood exactly what you meant. The conversation felt so effortless, and you ended up feeling you had an effective conversation with that person.
Only what you imagined was not the reality.
The reality is, you stumble over words leaving you feeling small, and what you really want to do is hide and blend in with the background.
When you do take the courage to speak, you feel like no one listens or hears what you are saying, and this leaves you feeling like no one understands you or your message.
There are many parts to communication and the first one we are going to look at is communicating with confidence.
Here are three tips to communicating with confidence:
Tip #1 Smile.
A smile can brighten a person’s day, a room, as well as brighten up your mood which most likely will help to boost your confidence.
Tip #2 Stand up straight.
I am sure you have heard someone during your lifetime tell you to stand up straight. Standing up straight is not only good for your posture, but it will make you feel tall and confident.
I don’t know about you, but when I stand up straight at 5 feet 2 inches tall, I feel really confident as if I am standing at the same height as the person I am talking to even if that person is standing at 6 feet 2 inches tall.
Tip #3 Speak clearly.
There are many people who are fast talkers and if you are one of them, that’s fine as long as you speak clearly. There are some fast talkers out there where all the words and sounds end up sounding mushed together and it sounds like they are making up their own words that I didn’t even know existed.
There might be a few reasons you are speaking fast. One is either you want to get the message out before you forget the important points you to wanted to share, or maybe you just want to get out of the conversation quickly because you’re not comfortable in the situation. Or you speak fast to sound as if you are mumbling because you might not be comfortable or confident with the message you are sharing with the other person, so you are casually glossing it over. Perhaps you have your own reasons to speak fast that I didn’t mention.
Remember that there are people that are good at processing information at a fast rate while others require more time. Depending upon the person’s ability to process the information you are providing they may or may not catch up which may cause some confusion and misunderstanding at times.
You don’t have to speak slow like a sloth either.
You want to speak at a pace that is comfortable for you and one that can also be easy for other people to understand. When you speak at that comfortable pace you exude confidence.
The next time you want to speak with Confidence just use the Three S-tips (this is the name I use to help me to remember) to Communicate with Confidence:
Tip #1 Smile
Tip #2 Stand up Straight
Tip #3 Speak Clearly
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Grace CW Liu believes there is a solution to every problem including communication and conversation problems. Everyone can find the solution they seek by using the guidance of grace that is in you, with the grace of spiritual support, and Grace –me– as your Communication Navigator and support system.
My passion is to help sensitive, conflict-phobic, and introverted women have effective communication so they feel valued and heard in any conversation.
Through studying and observations, I’ve realized why communication breakdown occurs and the solutions to solving those problems. I’ve presented these solutions so that communicative partners can achieve effective communication!