Magic Phrase For Active Listening
GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Active Listening]
[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]
In the nineth component of COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, we’re going to explore Active Listening.
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that main characters have situations where listening becomes important. Main characters may have to listen to themselves or others along the way as they go through their journey.
Encountering different people and situations isn’t always easy and so for you, as the main character, you will undoubtedly encounter a person or situation where listening (and we’re talking about active listening) becomes important.
That is just part of being human and the overall human experience.
What do you do when you come across a situation where a person might say to you, “You’re not listening” or “You didn’t listen to what I said”?
Practice Active Listening
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrase:
Repeat back everything the person says by saying “I heard you say ______ (list everything that the person said in his or her own words).
Make sure you have the person’s attention by calling the person’s name and make eye contact so that you know, both you and the other person are ready to listen to what you or they have to share.
As a main character in your story, when you choose to practice active listening, this will lead you to your happily ever after.
If you’re an introverted, people pleaser, conflict-phobic person who would love to openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without the fear of arguments and criticisms so you can have your happily ever after, then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that are stopping you and One step to move you toward to living your happily ever after.
Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com
Magic Phrases For Complaints | GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After
GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Complaints]
[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]
In the eighth part of COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, we’re going to explore Complaints.
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that the main characters can encounter people or situations to complain about or the people, go to the main characters to complain about a person or situation as they go through their journey.
Encountering different people and situations isn’t always easy and so for you, as the main character you will undoubtedly encounter a person or situation that you want to complain about, or a person or group of people come to you constantly to complain about someone or something.
That is just part of being human and having human experiences.
What do you do when you come across a situation where you’re constantly complaining, or people constantly come to you to complain about someone or something?
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrase (if you’re the complainer):
I feel frustrated or disappointed with or about _______
(state the person or situation that is frustrating you)
What are some things I can do to improve the situation?
(make a list of what you can do to make it better such as changing your attitude, limiting contact with person, ignore the other person’s behaviors, offer suggestions to improve situation if appropriate, and so forth.)
Magic phrase (if person or people come to complain to you):
I hear your frustration about_____
(repeat back the person’s list of complaints).
What do you think you can do to improve the situation or situation with the person?
(This allows the person to think about what he or she can do to allow him or her feel empowered rather than disempowered and so he or she start to think about finding solutions to his or her own problems rather than coming to you with complaints all the time.)
You acknowledge the feeling of your own frustrations, and you also think about ways to come up with solutions to problems so that you find less things to complain about.
Complaining doesn’t help you to find solutions, it just makes you wallow in your suffering.
Solutions help to end your suffering.
When someone complains to you to constantly complain about someone or situation you show that you’re listening to that person by listing all of the person’s complaints; however, you’re going to empower the person to come up with his or her own solutions by allowing him or her think about the changes he or she can make.
As a main character in your story, you can choose to wallow in your complaints and/or listen to other people’s complaints or you can choose to empower yourself and others by finding solutions that will solve your problems to eliminate the need to complain, and this will lead you to your happily ever after.
If you’re an introverted, people pleaser, conflict-phobic person who would love to openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without the fear of arguments and criticisms so you can have your happily ever after, then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that are stopping you and One step to move you toward to living your happily ever after.
Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com
GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Importance of I]
[In this COMMUNICATES series just know you are the Main Character.]
In the seventh component of COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, we’re going to explore is the Importance of “I.”
If you’re into reading or telling stories you know that main characters, protagonists, can sometimes give their power away to support characters, or companions by using words like “you.” This can take the form of statements such as ‘you chose to go this way’ or ‘you made me do this’ or even ‘we wouldn’t be in this position if you had or hadn’t done […]’ as they go through their journey.
In those instances, the protagonist gave away their power when they used the word ‘you’ and at that point they stated specifically that the companion did something directly to the main characters which isn’t entirely true.
That is just part of being human and having human experiences.
What can you do to bring back the power to you?
First you have to understand that when you make comments such as “you made me feel…” or “you could have…” you gave your power away to the other person by telling the person he or she did something to you.
No matter what the other person did or didn’t do, the truth is that you have control over your feelings, thoughts, emotions, behaviors, etc.
Bring your power back to you by using “I” Statements.
Magic phrases that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrases you can use are:
I am_______.
I feel_______.
I know_______.
I think _______.
When you use “I” statements you’re reclaiming control of what you’re feel, think, or believe about what happened.
There is no blame, and no blame on the other person. You’re clearly stating what you’re feeling and wanting so you now have your power back.
As a main character in your story, you can choose to give your power away or reclaim and stand in your power with I statements to your happily ever after.
If you’re an introverted, people pleaser, conflict-phobic person who would love to openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without the fear of arguments and criticisms so you can have your happily ever after, then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that are stopping you and One step to move you toward to living your happily ever after.
Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com
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GraceSOULutions COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After… [Mistakes]
In this COMMUNICATES series you are the Main Character!
In COMMUNICATES Happily Ever After, the fourth component we’re going to explore is Mistake.
If you’re into reading or telling stories, you know that the main characters can encounter people or situations where they are being blamed for a mistake that occurred as they go through their journeys.
Encountering different people and situations isn’t always easy and so for you, as the main character you will undoubtedly encounter a situation where you are blamed for a mistake or something that occurred either by you or by someone else.
That is just a natural part of the human experience.
What do you do when you come across a situation where you blame yourself, blame others, or you’re being blamed for something?
Someone might say something like this to you: “This is your fault” or “This wouldn’t have happened if you had or hadn’t done [x,y,z…]”.
What is a good way to respond when someone makes those comments to you?
Here is a Magic Phrase that will lead to happily ever after…
Magic phrase: I apologize for _______[state the mistake, take ownership of the mistake that was made by you and not by other people] and I have learned to do_______[state the solution that you learned from the mistake] or I am going to change _____[state the specific changes you are going to make].
This magic phrase shows that you are willing to take ownership of your mistake. Be courageous and face it so a solution can be found and made rather than hiding from it and making it worse.
It shows that you are willing to change or make the necessary adjustments to improve your situation rather than keeping things at the status quo.
It’s okay to make mistakes! That’s how we learn. So take ownership, learn from it, and make the changes that will help solve the situation.
As the main character in your own story, you can choose to take ownership of your mistakes or not. Whatever you choose to do, there are consequences and results from each choice you make. Just make sure that whatever in whatever you choose that you choose wisely.
You are permitted to make mistakes and you will make many. After all, that is how you learn. Solutions are usually found after a mistake has been made. Mistakes aren’t the issues, the issues lie in how you treat your mistakes. If you treat them in a better way, this will lead you to your happily ever after.
If you’re an introverted, people pleaser, conflict-phobic person who would love to openly and confidently communicate your thoughts, feelings, and desires without the fear of arguments and criticisms so you can have your happily ever after, then click below to book your free Communication Breakthrough Session where we will discover 5 obstacles that are stopping you and One step to move you toward to living your happily ever after.
Warm regards,
Grace CW Liu
Communication Coach & Navigator
W: GraceSOULutions.com