Hi, this is Grace and welcome to Sensitive Communication Tips.
So today’s video is a deep dive on nurturing feelings. Nurturing feelings of how you talk to yourself, as well as how you talk to others. In the last video, I gave you the acronym, GENTLE, which are each of the tips to help you to nurture the feelings, whether it be you talking to yourself or towards others.
And so some of the tips in the word GENTLE are self explanatory. So for example, G means be Gracious, be kind. So we have a lot of vocabulary words, and you are well aware that some vocabulary words are positive, promote good positive feeling, where other words may promote more of a negative feelings. However are those words are also necessary. But if you use them in a constructive way, a can be used more in a positive messaging, and which nurtures good feelings, whether it be you talking to yourself or to others.
So that leads to Expression in the word GENTLE, expression. Again, in the last video, I talked about how you can use it in a constructive way, rather than in a destructive way. So again, you know, a destructive way might be like, “oh, gosh, I’m such an idiot,” or I, or “oh, gosh, you’re such an idiot for making that mistake.” So again, not helpful, but in a constructive way, you can express your thoughts feelings, again, but in a nurturing way, where it’s constructive. So you might say, you know, “oh, you know, I made this mistake, because I was multitasking, I know better, I, you know, should just focus on one task, take my time with this. And then this would not have happened.” Or talking to another person, you could say, you know, “next time, just focus on this.” And then once when you finish this, then go ahead and work on this. Or, also double check your answer or something. So that it is in a constructive, it’s still firm, not overly aggressive, and known of the real words, that would make the person feel bad.
And then the next step was N, for Nourish, and it means to nourish your mind, body, spirit. So you know, if your mind, body, and spirit is healthy, by you know, having good positive thoughts, feeding your body with good nutritious food, getting plenty of rest and exercise, then you’re going to have a good mind, body, spirit balance, which is going to help reduce stress. Because a lot of times the reason we blow up, and we forget about using good calm voice or positive words, or all of that is because usually if we’re under stress, or we’re feeling overwhelmed, we just want to blow up. So if we are well nourished, in our thoughts, and our body, and our spirit, then we are going to be able to reduce the stress, which will also help us to be more calm, and you know, to talk more positively, more constructive way towards ourselves, as well as towards others.
And then T* I talked about Timeout. So again, pretty self explanatory, you know, just taking nice, deep breaths, to step away from situations at times, because a lot of the times if you’re going to push, push, push, push, push, it’s like pushing against a brick wall, it’s never going to move. So sometimes if you just take some nice deep breaths, you’re getting the, you know, oxygen to the brain. And you’re also able then to calm down, and you might be able to see things differently. And so instead of pushing against the wall, you might see an opening, where you can walk around the wall and get to the other side. And that might be having the other person see your point of view, or it might be you realizing it’s not so important if that person doesn’t see our point of view, as long as we know what we’re doing and what we’re thinking. And so we might just say, “You know what, this might not be worth the argument.” So, taking time out, just again, stepping away, taking some deep, some nice deep breaths will help.
And then L. I mentioned in the last video, it’s about Looking after yourself. And I mentioned that sometimes it is hard to take care of yourself with the tendencies that you would like to take care of others before you take care of yourself. So you put yourself on the back burner. But a lot of the times in order to take care of other people, you have to take care of yourself first, right? If you’re not healthy, then there’s no way that you can take care of another person when you’re not feeling well. So you need to feel well and energetic so that you have that energy to put in and taking care of others. So it’s not selfish, like I mentioned before, it’s not selfish to do self care on your own– on you first. And so and then making sure that when you’re taken care of then taking care of others, by making sure you’re nurturing good communication, the constructive words, whatever it be, so it is in a– moving in a positive direction, so it’s nurtured.
And then E, I mentioned, the last one is to Empower yourself, and Empower others. And you can empower yourself and others by just accepting and acknowledging. And without the judgment of being right or wrong, there’s no right or wrong, everybody has their opinions, and might be different from yours, your viewpoint might be different from another person. And it’s ok because we are an individual. And so we don’t have to think like the other person. And nor do we– we can speak our thoughts. But we don’t have to force the other person to think the way we do. Because everybody has a free will. That means a freedom to choose. And so nobody should take away that freedom, that free will of choice.
So that’s the whole tip. And I know I did some review, again, on the tips for the nurturing feelings. And a lot of the times you might be very critical of you know what you did, you might criti– it’s easy to criticize yourself. And it’s very easy to criticize others, I get it, you know. But with practice, and you know, with using the GENTLE tips that I have provided, remembering the word GENTLE, and going through each of those tips will help to quiet some of that criticism, quiet some of that negative thoughts, that is not constructive. That is not useful. And so we want to nurture feelings in communication, where it is useful. So hopefully, the GENTLE tips will help you to achieve that. So that’s today’s video, it’s all about using the GENTLE tips to nurture feelings. I hope the deep dive helped you to not only, again, receive the review, but also see how the tips can really benefit when nurturing your feelings. Not only when you’re talking to yourself, but also when you’re talking to others to have more of a positive impact that is constructive. And in a way that it can move the conversation forward in a positive way that we’re where you’re able to find the solutions and also when to know to let go so that you’re not again, trying to beat up or push against a wall that is not going to move. So again, I hope you found this to be helpful.
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